Hi heartache......pleased to meet you and welcome to the site.

 

Wow! what a roller coaster your life has been......sorry you are struggling with the realisation of what is happenning here.

 

Your daughter moved on from the rich neighbours after she took them for all she could get.did I get that right?

 

and now you are 57 and feeling totally alone?.....better to be 57 than 67 or even 77 and finding yourself in this situation. You are not old, there are plenty things out in the world for you if you look for them.

 

Why not give your daughter what she wants?.she wants her freedom from you...let her have it and you may just find some peace for yourself along the way.

 

We can only learn and change our own behaviour.we can't change anybody else. Your daughter has gone from being psychologically dependent on you to your neighbours and then to her husband and his mother.seems each time she  moves onto another target she dumps the last one.if that is so, its only a matter of time before she walks away from the husband...they always bite the hand that feeds them eventually.

 

Not really your problem, you need to look out for yourself and make the rest of your life worth living.

 

These people are not real anyway, they are just shells and pick up different bits from every other person they meet and adopt traits of behaviour as their own.

 

Your daughter has choices here.and so do you. She can choose to be a good daughter and include you in her life.she is choosing not to do so. The best revenge is to live well...it drives them nuts but is better for us anyway.

 

I believe that these people are born the way they are.....the old nature V nurture argument....no matter what her  background, she is now an adult and responsible for her own actions.seems like as she needed you to pay, she was the good kid...now she has another sponsor so you are disposable???

 

Read everything you can about this disorder. Protect yourself.