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From: XtraMSN Nicknameaplsauce03  (Original Message)Sent: 14/10/2008 1:12 a.m.
My daughter is 24. My life has been HELL for 24 years. She tried to kill me coming out, and has yet to stop. I also have a 21 year old son, both are in the military, yes she is trained to kill, as she has reminded me.
The first day of her life, I went down to the nursery to see her, and I couldn't find my baby. I asked the nurse were she was, the nurse replied "Oh, her", and directed me to this little seperate room were she layed SCREAMING. She was purple from screaming. That should have been a clue. It never got better. I tried, oh how I tried everything. First grade, 5 teacher conferences before Christmas, after the last one I told the teacher "Unless she's setting the school on fire, don't call me, cause I can't help you". I couldn't help myself. Third grade the teacher had to confiscate her shoes because she would kick them off trying to hit the teacher in the head, daily. Then would deny they were her shoes. She was a school bully. Was doing acid, cheating and convincing anyone that had ears that we were abusing her. Mostly her boyfriends. I found a letter from one of them offering to do "something" to us if she wanted. She managed to convince my parents we abused her after we threw her out and she went to live with them. While she lived with them she actually hit her police officer boyfriend with her car and then sped down the street with him on the hood of her car, while my father watched. He chalks it up to "that guy was a jerk", somehow that makes it OK. She has been in counseling, they found her delightful, when I would ask my mother for advice on what to do with her she would say "Isn't she cute". NO, she isn't. She has called me every name possible in every combination, she has spit on me, last year she assaulted me and threatened to kill me, she was arrested. She did her court appointed therapy and that was that. Now she is married to someone she met over the phone, and only met 4 times before the wedding, boy is he in for a suprise, she is currently in Iraq on her second tour, were she can be mean and possibly kill people and be praised for it. I was hoping she would be far enough away from me, but my family just think she's great and feel the need to help her torture me. I hope I never see her again. That means I may have to stay away from my own parents too. They feel sorry for her cause she doesn't have anybody, who do I have? She has a mother, she just has no feelings for me, or anybody else either they just haven't figured that out yet. Now I have dogs, I wish I had only had dogs, maybe then I could have had a happy life instead of sitting here wondering if I will ever get over this.


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From: XtraMSN Nicknameaplsauce03Sent: 14/10/2008 1:53 a.m.
I left this out. Before she left for Iraq she had to pack her things and use my husbands truck to move her stuff. When she returned the truck she left behind her "Sex Diary", or whatever you'd like to call that very insightful look into the black hole she has for a soul. She diagrammed all of the body parts of all the sex partners she's had, both male and female giving them and there abilities "ratings" from 1-10, including her new husband. I was suprised to see so many women, since she had no friends. Everyone was too stupid for to tolerate. If only these poor people new that they were just objects that she used like tissues then tossed. 2 of the women's abilities were rated as "so far", I guess that means it's still going on, I wonder if her husband knows that? I doubt that book was left by accident of the front seat, just her little going away gift, something to remember her by. As if there wasn't enough.

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From: XtraMSN NicknamefemfreeSent: 16/10/2008 7:51 p.m.
Hi aplsauce.
 
You are strong. What a nightmare. all you can do is perhaps print out your message for your own parents and, say "people have suggested I warn you, at least I can tell them I tried." The rest is up to them.
 
Try to find a life away from her.
 
Thank you for your story.
 
Hugs
femfree
 
 

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From: XtraMSN NicknamefemfreeSent: 16/10/2008 7:57 p.m.
Someday aplesauc3e. That 'sex diary' thing may be of some (maybe) use to her husband in a custody battle. You may be the only link to having her child(ren) raised by a normal father.
 
I hope there are no child from that marriage because of the high incidence of inheritability.
 
 

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From: XtraMSN NicknamesparkysmoonladySent: 21/10/2008 2:36 p.m.
Hi Applesauce
 
I know this sounds terrible but she just might get killed in Iraq and have a hero's funeral and all the honour and glory that goes with it and you can live your life with some peace
 
But I am also here to tell you it doesn't quite work that day
 
My son competed suicide when he was 16 and although he left this world too early to get to the point your daughter has
 
Up until he died his story was pretty much the same as your daughter's
 
What a rotten way to have to live
 
There were days when the phone never stopped ringing. P was throwing rocks of the railway overpass onto the cars passing underneath - he was trying to set something on fire - he was vandalising, bullying, getting drunk, stealing, driving under-age, unlicenced and drunk and............. in a stolen car....
 
We both know there is nothing we can do yet people tell us to "do" something - right? But never tell us what
 
I wish I could be more helpful - but I can only say I have been there and I know what it's like and I feel I was lucky to get off the hook when I did
 
But I say none of this lightly - there were many years when I could not get passed the way he lived and the way he died and now I read the boards here and add some help or understanding when I can
 
Everyone here knows want it's like - not exactly of course - but we do know everyone's experience is unique and yet we all have this nightmare bond
 
And yes - I only wanted to be told if the building I was sleeping in was on fire do - or if someone was bleeding to death and
 
After he tried to drown his little sister in the splasher he was warned once and the second time I drained the splasher and their Dad dismantled the pool that night and gave it to his sister for her kids
 
It was a pity because the splasher was big enough for us all to swim about it - and the little sister loved it too - but it was gone - just like that
 
It's called Tough Love - I am sure you have already heard the term. It's the only way we can survive this as intact as we can be with all this happening
 
Lots of love Applesauce
 
Sparky

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