My son is 11 yrs. old and spinning out of control.He's been seeing a counselor for 2 yrs now and they tell me he has major deppression. I had found this web page among others about narcissism and my son fits the description to the tee, so much as to where he had called his father( we are divorced) and told him i threw him across the floor because after he broke his bed in a fit of rage I told him he could not watch anymore t.v. that night and he was not allowed to go to his friends house the following day. He reacts like this alot when he does not get his way and the anger and violence towards me and his siblings are getting out of control. I had given his counselor 15 pages about what I had found and had got no reaction from her about this situation. I fear if noone can give him the help he needs that it will only get worse and he will hurt someone or himself even worse than he has. My ex husband feels that they are doctors and can diagnose him the correct way and i'm just crazy myself for thinking it but later found out that my son fears his father and wouldn't dare throw the " fits" in front of him because of the repocussions that would follow. I guess I just need some answers on how to deal with my son and still maintain a solid relationship with my younger two without shutting anyone out.