Hi

 

Long story short:  our teenaged son moved out a few months ago to be with his girlfriend in another town (against our wishes, but we were advised to be supportive).  Consequently, he's really been able to fly under the radar and I am now seeing the extent of his manipulativeness. Girls have always been drawn to him like moths to a flame and it appears he takes full advantage of this.  I just found out one of them has been sending him large sums of money (he told her a story about being injured and unable to work--not true).  I was able to identify the girl (eventually) and contact her.  I had a long conversation with her and gently told the truth about his behaviour.  She was heartbroken and devastated and I felt for her and tried to be supportive.  She thanked me for contacting her and I tried to reassure her that it was best that she found out now, rather than later..  What is my next step?  We are hoping we can still turn our son around and have been advised by expersts not to alienate him if possible.   How do we address with him what we know?  Is there still hope that we can convince him to be accountable for his actions? We've also just discovered (his girlfriend let it slip)  that he is moving on and is not planning to tell us where he is going.  What do we do from here?