Welcome LitlBit,

I am on a bit late as we had a disaster snow storm which knocked out so many power lines and trees. We had no power for four days nor heat and our phone line was torn down. The sidewalks are littered with tree limbs. It is eerie to say the least. We got power back and now am finally able to post. I too have a N daughter, which I recently joined this group. I also have grandchildren that she had used to control me for years. The latest incident being that I have not seen them since mother's day. She called when the power was out, she wanted to go to work, and leave the kids in the dark. My family and I were somewhere else , so I did not even call back. The power came back on there within two hours so she went to work. My granddaughter had called too. Today my P daughter called again as the kids had to take a bus near my house. Everytime there is a reason for one to come near my house she calls. Not that they should come to our house but to  make sure they don't. I dont' know what she told them one of them is 14. I wish I could block her number so she can't call my hubbies cell phone. She has hurt me so much in the past and I am glad I found out here how I have been abused. It sure was a relief to find out what I am dealing with. I now have cut off contact and feelings, but she will always find a reason to try to use us. I know it is harder when there are grandchildren involved and now I am at the point where I can see the kids are becoming just like her, and so I am starting to accept that it is probably better that I don't have any contact with them either. Only my grandson wants to see me he told me. Hang in there and hang around there are many here who have been through and are still going through the same thing, and are here for you . It does get easier with time, and to finally find out what you have been dealing with is a relief in itself.