Hi Rose.pleased to meet you. We have all seen that look......we all know exactly what you mean by it....but I would suspect it was really reserved for you for maximum effect....so try not to react.... Whether the threat is real or not doesn't matter..you felt  threatened.so thats enough in my book.......you don't need this from anybody.let alone your own son. My own daughter quite possibly could have been a  potential physical danger to me.apart from the fact I am stronger than she is and refuse to let her make me a victim...so instead she uses the next best thing.her son.....My family has always been very close....now it requires some slight alterations but we can still function together as a family.we just removed the chaotic side and carried on where we left off. Whatever monies your son has cost you over the years..consider it a pay off...but make sure he doesn't get any more. If you cut off his supply, he is going to get furious with you........and if you continue to give him money, he is going to be furious with you cos you are in a position to help him.when he is superior here.and if you supply money, he will carry on ruining your life as long as the money is there..he feels no shame in asking you for it either.actually, he thinks its his right to ask.and his needs are greater than yours anyway....cos he is superior.We are all in this strange place together........and its a very confusing one.....which they play to their advantage.......you have a right to a life.....35years married to the same man....bet your son hates that idea cos he can't stick to anything for more than 5 minutes. hugs twink.