Hi save..pleased to meet you. I too have a P daughter.....though she is undiagnosed...who has a 2 year old baby. She and him lived here with me and the rest of the family and when he was 16months old she abandonned him with me. was a terrible time for all of us.except the baby, he didn't seem too bothered by it as he had always lived with us......I looked after him whilst she was at work. When she left him here, she said she didn't want him and please would I adopt him.......??????was such a shock...........I contacted social services.i am in the UK.......they were really good, gave lots of advice etc.....told me how to sort things out. Everything went fine then after 5 weeks of my daughter not wanting any contact with her baby, she announced she made a mistake and wanted him back.........I told her no..he wasn't  going to be passed from pillar to post at her whim..but, it was never my intention to keep him , more until she sorted her life out and by keeping him then he was safe and in a stable place......we ended up going through the court system.I was still in the belief that she was having some sort of blip or breakdown......or even post natal depression.we went down every avenue of thought with her..the doctor told me she was bad not mad.and that opened my eyes. I was  awarded a residence order...he had to live with me but as there were no reported incidents of abuse, then she was allowed unsupervised access and visits with him...........and of course, she ran..in breach of the court orders etc.....the courts, police, health workers and social services  moved the moon to help me......but..the law is the law and only the mother has rights. I don't mean to yap on and on about this.just thought maybe if you saw a condensed story it may help you. I have found the people on this site to be truly amazing.and will be forever grateful to so may here who have helped...even when sometimes they told me things I would prefer not to hear...lol. Good luck with this one.....don't give up.where there is a will, there is a way.and if I had to do it all over again, I would do.......I love my grandson too....and I still believe that when she gets fed up.as they always do.she will want to bring him back...which gives me a huge headache..if she thinks I want him, she will see to it I don't get him.....catch 22.