My husband is slowly beginning to see the light I think.  My step-daughter is 9.  Its a bad situation all the way around.  Her mother has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, pathological lying, munchausen by proxy (sp) and god only knows what else.  We got custody of my step-daughter because her mother said she had cancer and was taking her for a bunch of tests.  My husband was never allowed to go to the doctor appointments.  Turns out she didn't have a thing wrong with her.  We made a decision to go for custody (hindsight).  It's been hard to get him to even get her to the doctors, but he told me this morning that he thinks that there is alot more wrong with her than just depression.

 

How do you disipline these children?  Grounding doesn't work.  Neither does spanking, deprevation of toys.  Nothing has ever gotten through to her.