Hi everyone,

I have just finished reading the ladies story about her psychopathic son. I wanted to cry, and god knows I have done heaps of that. My on is 22 and could be the same person this lady wrote about.

Abusive, manipulative, everything has always been my fault, laughs when I cry, can't keep a job, smokes dope and becomes delusional when he does, smashes property including my car doors, house windows, speaks to me nice as pie one minute and then when he can't get what he wants turns to abuse full of hatred and foul language.

It is only this week after years of struggling to help this child, that I realize I have to leave him to his mess. Hs focus is completely on himself, and I now realize that he is unable to really love anyone else.

One big hiccup, he has a child, and his partner walked out on him and the child 4 months ago. Of course he couldn't cope for 5 minutes alone, so guess who is raising their grandaughter?  Me. Now, the fun really starts because he has lost his sole parenting paments (I caused that too!) and he is demanding his little girl back. Thankfully, anglicare support services won't support him having her, and are prepared to involve the child welfare agency if necessary. My partner and I have an appointment with a lawyer on the 2/2 to try for some legal guardianship to protect this beautiful little girl. His counsellor has suggested that he get a job and he says to me 'why should Iget a job'?, like it's such a huge unrealistic expectation.

After all these years of struggling, putting on a facade of being ok, I can say that my son is an absolutely unpleasant human being. Yes, I love him, because I gave birth to him, but like that other woman wrote, I hate him too. I find it difficult to understand that he can be charming one minute, and an absolute monster the next. I am scared of him when he is in a rage, and am fed up with him wrecking things. He has cost me thousands of dollars. When I had my business, and was raising 2 kids on my own, he stole about $4,000 from my cashbox, and it took me weeks to realize why I couldn't balance my banking! He lies as easy as telling the truth, and I never believe anything he tells me anymore.

He has nearly destroyed me and the stress he has inflicted on me, my daughter, my partner, probably his ex partner is unfair and has left me is shreds.

it is great to find this forum, and maybe talk to others who have a child like mine. After all these years, I am crying that I have had to endure for so long, and  I kept trying to save him from his mess.

How can one person cause so much distress in others?? only last night I visited my daugher, who is having a a baby in July, and she was sobbing over her brother, and the loss of a normal sibling relationship. She was also crying over the loss of her father, who plays no part in her life, and I realize that his son has inherited this disorder from him. His father is also a monster with the same addictive habits.

I have raved on, my apologies. I am overflowing I think with years of emotion and distress.

Goosie