Hi,  I'm new here and have been reading various boards about personality disorders for a while.  My stepson has  personality disorder, I'm not sure what exactly, but he is very dysfunctional.  My husband and I have decided that we do not want him in our lives anymore, but herein lies a major problem,  he has two beautiful daughters.  We love them dearly. The 6 year old lived with us for about 21/2 years after her mother left my stepson.  They remarried last year.  

 

Can anyone relate to this.  He has been a discipline problem for most of his life.  He is unable to hold a job, drive within the speed limit (he has lost his license because of tickets), admits to having ADD (abuses adderall)., impossible to communicate with, deals drugs, uses illegal drugs and has only supported himself and his family for a period of about 8 months in the last 6 years.  He hops from place to place and always ends up under somebody else's roof.   We bought him a new car, with the understanding that he would take over the payments, have paid his car insurance, done everything we possibly could to help him, he treats us like we are a bother.  He told me once that he really doesn't need to be around his family.  He's entitled, cocky and thinks that he is an expert on everything.  (Oh, his brother and sister, mother were also helping them financially.)  We figured they were getting about 1,000 per month and still couldn't make it with both of them working. 

 

My granddaughter witnessed her mother (she's bipolar, I suspect also borderline)  in a psychotic state in the ER (another long story) and the same day witnessed her father getting beat up, blood and all.  We saw her after that and it obviously had had an effect on her.  She had one therapy appointment and her mother refuses to take her back to the therapist.  She says she doesn't want her to have to relive the incident.  We had an argument about that this morning.  They found a psychiatrist to diagnose our granddughter with ADD and she is taking Adderall/  I'm not sure how I feel about that.

 

CPS is involved after the hospital called them.   Our granddaughter told her Aunt that her parents were dealing drugs and then CPS got involved.  The Aunt did not report this until they were caught in the hospital.  They live with the Aunt now and I'm not too sure if I trust her either.

 

My SS has always been entitled, never shows remorse (unless he's afraid for himself) and has never, never give us a sincere thank you for every thing that we have done.

Help, can anyone relate to this or am I going down the wrong path.

 

Thanks for listening.