Hello,

I was surfing the net one night looking up definitions of psychopaths when I found this site.  What a relief this has been.  It is as if I was reading stories about my daughter over and over again.  The biggest relief is that I have found other parents who have come to the same conclusion my husband and I have:  our daughter is a psychopath and in order to protect the rest of our family and ourselves we must cut all contact with her after she turns eighteen.

This is the most heartbreaking decision of my life.  It doesn't feel natural.  It goes against all of my maternal instincts. 

My daughter was adopted by us at age five. She came from a rotten orphanage in Russia and weighed 25lb. when we got her.  Right from the beginning I thought she had a strange emptiness in her eyes.  Whenever my husband was in the bathroom she would try to peak through the door, she killed a vole in the garden and other strange behaviors. However,  I have another adopted child who is a wonderful person and I thought love conquered all.  Good food, attention, love, that's all it takes, right?  Wrong! 

Today those eyes are not only emotionless, but stone cold and hateful.

She hates me and her other siblings.  I also have two biological children.  Her father died from cancer at age twelve and we struggled.  I met my current husband and married a couple of years ago.  He would be a wonderful stepdad if she would let him. My friends blame the death of her father on her escalating hateful behavior, but she has always been this way.  She became sexually promiscous in the last two years.  I understand teenagers who think they are "in love," and are sexually experimenting.  She, however, was going at it with two or three guys at the same time who she hardly knew. She sees nothing wrong with this.  She crawled out her window at night and tried to break into houses of boys who were resisting her"charms."

She found a dysfunctional teacher at her last school and told her I was beating her and mistreating her.  She also told other parents this.  Social services showed up at our door.

She is several grades behind because she feels schoolwork is beneath her.

We found journals where she outlines and graphs her hatred of us and her plans for vengence, especially me.

We sent her to a boarding school for troubled teens and she has been making filthy untrue accusations from there, sexually approaching girls, peeping at them in the bathroom, cheating at schoolwork, failing grades, etc.

I don't expect her to get better.  We have decided to keep her there until she turns eighteen and then give her some money and throw her out.  If she stays here her accusations have become much more sophisticated and her behavior more slick.  She would have the police at our door hauling us away in a heartbeat.

Even some of our friends and family don't understand how capable she is of evil behavior because she is such a good actress around them.

She is without a conscience and we fear what she will do to somebody else if she has the opportunity.

Suzanne