Hi there Kat

 

Welcome to the family - alas - we do undertand your story

 

Although no one can know exactly what you are feeling - or all the details of your experience

 

We are in a club that no one would want to be in by choice

 

Yet here we are

 

I am in Aus where the systems vary yet again and my P was an adopted child.

 

He was in a Children's Psychiactic Hosptial for a few months way be when he was around 7 - and this was in the 70s - and it didn't work at all - as far as I could see

 

But when he grew past my height when he was 11 and my then-husband - who grew up in a family of women - his father came home from the war and went to bed for the rest of his life - gave up on thje boy -

 

We have a biological daughter two years younger and my ex hasn't had a problem with her - but he stopped participating in helping me out with the boy and when he got taller and stronger he was made a Ward of the State

 

Community Services couldn't keep their mitts of our life and it was a nightmare of trying to find accomodation until he went into Juvenile Detention,

 

Man! - was I manipulated by everyone  - the P, my then husband, my parents, the people where he was supposed to live and his probabtion officer - teachers - you name it -

 

And I am pretty sure by now you are in the picture cause I could almost read your story in mine

 

But the question is - what do you do about this? - it doesn't go away.

 

I wish I could be more helpful - but alas - State Wardship didn't work out either.

 

I will be thinking of you and I am interested in hearing how things work out

 

Sparky