UPDATE UPDATE
So much more has happened, and looking at the time stamp of the last post it's only been a month!
Last I posted my son was on the run with a warrant out for him. He has since been picked up, spent some time in juvenile detention waiting for his sentencing hearing. The judge (smart judge) realized there was so much more to his case then just the official file so he ordered a deposition(?). Basically this is giving the judge all the behind the scenes activity including therapists opinion, and an unbiased psychoanalysis. The Psychologist basically confirmed that if he isn't already A.S.P.D. that he is well on his way.
The three Child Protective cases have been closed and UNFOUNDED. I am not a child abuser! WOO HOO!
Everyone at the deposition agreed that my son, for his own safety (when he was picked up he was a cadaver at 5'8" and 120lbs! 20lbs dropped in a month from serious drug use) , should be placed in a long term program. One that he has to earn his way out of. OK let's see how THAT works.
When we got to the deposition meeting, my son was "showing his arse". He had to be thrown up against the way and restrained. He was placed in solitary confinement for the remainder of the meeting. He threatened my life, my husbands, and his 7 year old brother's life in front of guards! That is so unlike him! He's always shown that side in private. So now I have proof for what good it does me now.
So the judge agreed to place him in this program. Minimum release will be when he turns 18. That's IF he works the program, and plays by the rules. If not he could be there till he's 21. This particular program is a moderate risk facility (ie, razor wire and 12 foot fencing around compound), and is primarily a drug abuse program with some attention to psychological problems. To be honest I didn't think this was the right program for him since the drug abuse is a symptom not the primary problem.
However, the problem is that if we didn't get him in a program in X amount of days he would be sent home WITH ME! to await an opening to another facility. We would have been right back where we started from. Either scared to sleep at night, or him taking off again. So I know he's safe and well taken care of. I know the program If he' works it the RIGHT way, not the manipulate anyone I can way, he might get a GED and learn a trade.
Now here we go again though. None of this behind the scenes background is in his file. So I'm starting at square one with these people. Trying to warn them of the manipulation. And of course they act so very condescending , and get sucked in by his charm just the same. Already he has his case manager snowed. No matter how many times I see it happen it still amazes me that the so called professionals can be taken in so quickly and with out much effort on his part.
It doesn't help that live an hour and a half away, and have to do most of these meetings by phone. I can not afford the gas to and from.
I'm tired.
I mourn all my hopes and dreams I had for him. I still mourn the son I had. The friend he was. I miss his smile, and jokes. I miss his big blue eyes, and I miss him still calling me mamma when he wanted something. |
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