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yes indeed - the other.
We tried to include his birthmother from the start. We called her "Mamastar", because she was dead and in heaven and she was one of the stars looking down on him and watching over him.
The other is his birthfather - the guy who killed his mother while he watched. Now we realize that the trauma needed to be taken care of RIGHT WHEN HE WAS SMALL. But all the "experts" told us to keep it quiet. Not mention it. He was so small. He will forget. He will get over it. But he didn't.
We told him when he was 6 and asked insistently. He told some kids at school when he was 10 and we got called in instantly and lectured that our son was watching too much TV and fantasizing. We said, no, that's true. Everyone hushed up, but no one did anything.
He should have been in psychiatric treatment before puberty. But we thought that love would heal all wounds. It didn't.
I suppose I am just scared that he is coming back inside, even when I put on a brave outside. It is nice to have a group here to write to. |
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