Hi, I'm new to this group.  Another adopted son here.  Adopted at 2 weeks old from county adoption agency.  He is 28 years old now and your stories of childhood all sound sadly familiar.  He was diagnosed as ADHD by age 3, then conduct disorder by 11, then ASPD sometimes called sociopath by 18.  We have "helped him out" many times (bought cars, loaned money, let him live with us for a while) but his life is still a mess.  Says he's going to school to be "this" or "that" but never seems to accomplish anything. Lies, sob stories, disorganization, seedy friends - that's his life.  Right now we are free of him as he moved out last month, but he is just out there on the fringes and we know we will hear from him when he's in a bind.  But I want to be ready to say "NO" lovingly but firmly.  I hope this group will be the help I need.