I think that over the years as a couple become more comfortable with each other there will always be small changes made in their attitudes and in themselves, some are very subtle and some changes are visible to the people that have known them personally.
For me the changes took a long time as well as for Top..The first 7 years were very hard as we had to adjust to marriage and kids being in the picture..We both had to learn to become a family unit to make decisions for "our" family to survive and become one..
We both had to learn to put aside our petty differences and to learn not to "hit " below the belt in a fight..We also had to learn to back off and walk away.
My brother in law and father in law commented that I had changed significantly over the years..I used to be very combative
and had to always prove to them that I was right..Now when that little feeling hits me when I'm backed into a corner I don't come out fighting, I sit back and assess what the situation is first, which is very hard to do sometimes....but over the years I have learned that getting stressed and upset doesn't work...
Arguements crop up from time to time and Top and I have learned to assess them like adults and to talk openly about what is that is bothering us...sometimes we just agree to disagree and move on...lol.. Why sweat the small stuff!....Learn to accept and move on..
To make our marriage last we learned that humour is the best medicine..Why make something out of nothing? When you can learn to make light of menial things..Assess the big things and deal with them as they come along together, as adults and as a family unit, the marriage will be healthier and stronger for it.
So yes time has changed me in our marriage..I am no longer that combative, stressed out, petulant child..I have evolved into a very happy, mentally healthy, married adult woman....