What men want - apart from the Aston Martin! Men's sex secrets revealed

Ask most people what men want and they'll probably say a never-ending pint of lager, the match playing and an endless supply of blow-jobs. While this may be right for some men, it's not quite as simple as that. Men can be just as complex as women. As with everything, the best way to find out what a man wants is to ask him, but here are a few general pointers.

Affection

Men are expected to be sexual all the time, but sometimes all he wants is a hug. If he's had a hard day, give him a cuddle, make him a cup of tea �?do all the things that you'd want him to do for you. A bit of affection will go a long way to improve your relationship.

Praise

It can be easy to fall into the trap of moaning at each other all the time, particularly in a long-term relationship. Make a real effort to give as many compliments as complaints to your partner. Everyone likes praise and it also acts as 'reinforcing' behaviour, making him more likely to do nice things again.

If he does the washing up, don't say 'But I cleaned the whole house'. Say thanks and give him a hug. It's not some 1950s time-warp thing - it's just that men respond well to praise. And if you praise him, he'll be more likely to give you compliments too.

Nowhere is praise more important than the bedroom (or wherever else you have sex) Tell him when he does something great in bed or admire his package and he'll be smiling all day.

Fantasies

Almost everyone has fantasies, whether male or female. Common male fantasies include being forced to make love by a woman, being dominant, watching a woman masturbate, and the classic 'lesbian' threesome. You don't have to live out his fantasies, although you may decide that you want to. However, entering into his fantasy world when you make love will raise more than a smile.

Ask him what he fantasises about first, because no two men are the same. If he likes the lesbian threesome idea, whisper to him that you're imagining your sexy friend playing with your breasts while he penetrates you. If he likes the idea of being dominated, tell him he'd better make you come or he'll be in trouble. Live out his fantasies and you'll really be his fantasy lover.

Seduction

Why should men always make the first move? A lot of men complain that they always have to approach women to ask them out, or that they have to initiate sex in a relationship.

Being chatted up is a great boost to the ego, although most men still like to do the actual asking out. It may be a sexual stereotype, but it's generally true. If you fancy someone, approach them, make it obvious that you're interested and maybe buy them a drink but leave that final move to him.

However, once you're in a relationship, throw that rule out of the window! Don't wait until he asks you for sex. Start to caress him when you're watching TV, as long as it's not something he really wants to see. Grab him by the tie when he gets home from work, lead him into the bedroom, push him on the bed and give him a blow job. Go out without wearing knickers then tell him over dinner so that he's aroused all night. You might even want to drag him into an alley on the way home�?/FONT>