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I know that it is just her age-- (she will be 16 in less than 30 days) but when she gets back from her mothers or even when she returns from Joe's moms; Jessi is a snob towrds me-- Today I was talking to her and she totally ignored me!! I said-- " Excuse me-- I asked you a question.. " she anwered --"oh really"..

I am at my wits end.. I know she hates me and I am dealing with it.. I don't kiss her butt to get along with her and I refuse too do it. She has no respect for me.. She won't do anythig I ask her to do.. I have to have Joe to tell her what to do & he hates to be in the middle. .So I don't ask her for anything any more. .I will do it all.. Which I am tired some times doing everything around the house!

So I need advice---- Help!!!

She goes to her mothers on June 2nd till June 11th== YEA!!!! (oops does that sound mean?)

Sweetie, I would never want to have step children. That has to be rough when they get older and yours are getting that age it seems. I am so sorry she is acting like this because you two have always had such a good relationship it seemed, I was hopeing it would never come to this.

I wouldn't put Joe in the middle. But I would not stop asking her to do things. I would not accept her ignoring you either. Does Joe stand behind you in what you say or do with her? He doesn't try to defend her? She has to know you are both a strong front first of all. She isn't going to get by with whatever she wants. You have the power, restrict her, take her privileges from her, phone computer, whatever it may take or you think is best. Of course she will need to talk with her mother, but I wouldn't let her be calling friends and such. She has to see there are consequences for her bad behavior. Don't act like she is toward you. Be the responsible adult and don't let her take over. She is at that age she needs a stronger hand unfortunately. These next few years are gonna be touch I am afraid. But you will live through it. Honey mine were like that when they went to visit there Dad then come back to me. It's a change of life styles and everything they adjust to from place to place. I let mine know they would learn to live with me as things were or they wouldn't but they would be staying and doing as I say. But of course they are my children! Please don't let her run you, you won't get her to respect you and learn anything from you then. Make the rules and stand strong. I am so long winded but I honestly feel so bad for you honey. If I can do anything else let me know.

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