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| | From:  liah00 (Original Message) | Sent: 3/28/2008 3:24 AM |
Hey guys, My boyfriend has been having nightmares about his past for years. He has them everynight and he wakes up crying and can't go back to sleep because he's terrified. I don't want to go into details if I don't have to because it's very personal for him and very bad stuff but I was wondering if there's any way I can help him stop having these dreams. I will do anything I can to get him through this. I told him to leave it with me and I'll find something but he doesn't believe there is anything that can be done. And I, on the other hand, don't believe there is nothing that can be done. I'm hellbent on helping him move past this but I'm hoping there's a way I can do it without having to push him into anything that he isn't ready for. Anyhow, if anyone has any suggestions, PLEASE get back to me. Horrible things happened to him and they have such a hold on him and I want to find a way to lift this burden from him. Mel |
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| | | From: wolfie | Sent: 3/29/2008 12:26 AM |
HI Mel Basically your boy friend has PTSD . Usually you hear of this with veterans and war experiences but it can occur in the aftermath of any traumatic experience. Sooooooooo having been in your shoes my advice is Make him talk it out , and talk it out and then talk it out some more . ideally he should see a councelor that specializes in his sort of trauma , but it that is not something he is willing to do then it has to be you , The more he talks about it while awake the less it will disturb his sleep. and when it does make sure he talks it out then . you are both already awake and it is a good time to excorcise some of those demons. but dont limit it to just then . he needs to explore ways of facing those demons in the dream let them know they no longer can hurt him and in that way let him affirm that they can no longer hurt him. I hope this helps Wolfie |
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| | | From: liah00 | Sent: 3/29/2008 2:22 AM |
| Thank you so much. That helps me a great deal. I will let you know how it works out. I'm sure it'll take time, but I believe with all my heart that I can help him get past this if he lets me. I wish there was a way I could put myself into his dreams so I could stand beside him and give him strength to face it. He tells me I make him feel invincible and like he can do anything...I wish I could do the same for him in his dreams where he needs it most. It's heartbreaking to see him go through this. |
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