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| | From:  silvrhawk (Original Message) | Sent: 18/10/2008 7:54 a.m. |
I am just realizing that my 22yr old abusive son can't be helped from me. He has set me up for many falls. He has lied to me and everyone else all his life. He has always blamed me and held me responsible for his molestation 12yr ago. I have put my life and emotions on hold for this boy/man. He has totalled my truck, owes us 5,000 dollars and refuses to pay us back. I put a restraining order on him last yr and was thinking of amending the order to read we could contact only through mail so we could try to be a family again. The court date is this Monday and I have decided to cut the ties with him. I just can't keep making excuses for him abuse towards us. I don't want to keep looking over my shoulder and hoping he does not set me up again. I have PTSD and just cant do this anymore. My marriage has suffered because of his crap. Please give me your oppinions. |
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My x-son was the same way. He would set me up for abuse, blame me for things I didn't do, constantly rage at me, put me down, . . . . etc. etc. etc. I finally had to totally cut contact 7 years ago (he was 31 then).
In the past 7 years . . I have made many friends, do interesting things, am enjoying my life as much as anyone can, have gone through a nightmare like this.
I am sure . . if I had kept contact, I would have been reduced to a mumbling, shriveling, pathetic women.
I know in my heart I did the right thing. He is crazy, and No Contact (for me) was the only way. If I stayed he would haved dragged me down with him. . . . and there is no lifting him up (to be normal). It's just an impossibility. |
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| | | From: femfree | Sent: 18/10/2008 5:09 p.m. |
HI silverhawk. thank you fro sharing your story here. My heart feels your pain. You have done all and more that you could do. He has done cruel and terrible things to you. I hope our story on the left "The Parents of Psychopaths" brings some peace to you as you read this woman's story. Hugs femfree |
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| | | From: suzanne | Sent: 20/10/2008 5:18 p.m. |
Silvrhawk,
You are doing the right thing no matter what anyone else says. Stick to your convictions. There is a whole group of us out here who totally understand you. Take comfort in that.
Suzanne
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From: silvrhawk <[email protected]>
To: Coping with the Psychopath/Narcissist Child <[email protected]>
Sent: Sat, 18 Oct 2008 2:54 am
Subject: HELP HELP HELP
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I am just realizing that my 22yr old abusive son can't be helped from me. He has
set me up for many falls. He has lied to me and everyone else all his life. He
has always blamed me and held me responsible for his molestation 12yr ago. I
have put my life and emotions on hold for this boy/man. He has totalled my
truck, owes us 5,000 dollars and refuses to pay us back. I put a restraining
order on him last yr and was thinking of amending the order to read we could
contact only through mail so we could try to be a family again. The court date
is this Monday and I have decided to cut the ties with him. I just can't keep
making excuses for him abuse towards us. I don't want to keep looking over my
shoulder and hoping he does not set me up again. I have PTSD and just cant do
this anymore. My marriage has suffered because of his crap. Please give me your
oppinions.
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