Hi Sparky and everyone else,

              So true the denial has worn off. That's not to say I can't be cought off guard, but when I started researching and  hearing myself say yes, yes and yes that is what my 14yr old son is like. I thought there is no telling this duck not to quack and i stopped taking his behavior person and felt better. It's so strange to see him in action

though. It's hard on the whole family, but it hard when I see him efffect my 5yr old twin boys and my 6 yr old daughter. My husband talks to me some, but you know how men can be sometimes. My husband is bipolar so he is sometimes hard to read, but now that we've accepted reality, we're not sucked in so muchand are actually doing better emotionally.          Belrose777