Hi Belrose

 

I'm Sparky from Australia.

 

My P was an adopted child and his adoptive Dad - my ex husband - gave up when the kid got too hard to handle and I dunno know how he did it - my ex was able to shut it out of his consciousness except for bouts of violent vomiting on the couple of occasions I said

 

"LOOK AFTER HIM I HAVE A LIFE TOO"

 

It really didn't work

 

I couldn't turn my back - but he was a tall boy and around 11 he grew past me in height - and I'm tall - taller than my ex - and then I lost control physically and the Head Master at the Primary School suggested State Wardship - which didn't mean he was no longer in our lives

 

But the adoption had broken  down.

 

So was it his genes or possible alcohol consumption of his birth mother or maybe he was just angry and pushed everything and everybody past the point of endurance

 

He tested everything and he lost the fight

 

But - whose fault?

 

What to do?

 

Whose genes cause what?

 

Was it something that happened during gestation - like a virus of some kind?

 

Or something in the environment?

 

And of course there are all those sticky beaks - "Cluck - cluck - cluck"

 

It never goes away - but after  times some people learn to butt out

 

All the best everyone - please - never blame yourselves

 

Sparky