Belrose,

When my son was living at home I used to have daily physical aches and pains.  Some days it was excruciating!  It took three years for that to leave after the stress came down a little.  Now all it takes is a phonecall and I will feel ill all day or have huge panic attacks for the next few days.  I fully understand where you are coming from.

In my experience, the only way I got help was instucting ppl who had problems with him to call the police.  It got to a point where I needed him gone.  God answered my prayer the summer I sent him to cadet camp for three weeks.  Within 1 week he was charged with an offense and after that was placed in a group home.  The military police don't mess around, and when I told them to 'nail him to the wall', they did.  He hasn't lived at home since that summer.  But he is not out of our lives, he still has to make it known on an almost daily basis that he still exists

A preacher gave me the best advice years ago.  It was hard to follow but once you internalize it and change your mind set you will feel alot more free.  He said this...

 

"You are not in control, nor can you ever be.  Don't allow this child to reflect on you.  Give him to God, after all, he is Gods creation and only God can fix him.  Don't bang your head against the wall trying.  Let it go!"

Belrose I feel your pain and frustration, I know what it's like to be stuck with a child like this.  Today I only wish mine would end up behind bars so he can't hurt anyone and I can instruct the jail not to allow phone calls to my house:>)  Now that would be freedom:>)

I always said God gave me this child to keep me humble and dependant on God...because it sure has worked!  If only I could get rid of the panic!