Yesterday was our 2nd day in court because our 13 yr old adopted son has been sexually abusing his twin sister and my two granddaughters for about 7 years.  Right now my older daughter (mother of one of the victims ) is in a mental hospital over this -it is just amazing how one person can affect that many lives!!!His case worker kept telling me that I have to talk to my son at the courthouse so I finally did - I tried to explain calmly how much pain he had caused us all and how I just did not understand why he had done this -he just stood there with that "I'm not really here" look on his face just like always-I get so angry I just want to shake him but I know that won't help either.  I guess I just can't understand how people without empathy or a conscience think.  I talked with the prosecuting attorney because I really feel that they should bring charges against him - why should he just be in a nice group home without a care in the world when all of us are left here to try to pick up the pieces and the girls have to deal with school and their classmates!!I know that sounds harsh and if they think that their therapy will work(even though I've already tried everything that they plan to do-except for a lie detector test-don't need one I already know when he's lying) then fine let them try but I still think he needs some kind of punishment too.  I guess they are seriously considering criminal charges but they say just remember he's a child!!! I'm sorry but penetration and oral sex is NOT childlike behavior!!! He still is trying to kiss up to his Father - my therapist says that's because he needs an ally especially one with power.  Somehow even in the courthouse he made it all seem like I was the one with the problem!! Will this nightmare ever end!!??