Hi Jodi,

I just joined this forum a few moments ago.I joined NPD yesterday. i am so sorry to hear about your daughter.I feel as if I am talking to myself, for I joined this group, just to have a way to 'vent, share, recommend, have someone recommend'. anyway to circumvent the pain, guilt, misery,shame, false accusations, blame and all in all the "sh*t" of having a very, ungreatful child. I know first hand what you are going through and I would not wish this, horrible mess and pain on my worst enemy! Don't feel alone, I thought I must be the only mother going through this, and I could not 'identify' as to 'why'. I came to some understanding, it may or may not help. I realized, all the years I thought I was helping her, I was enabling her, and for the life of me, even though others would tell me this, I did not 'get it'.I could not bear to see her in pain, of any kind.This website,  i listed below helped me to come to some understanding.

Her abuse came in all manneisms, verbal, physical emotional, financial, you name it. Her sweet words, of "fuc* you hit hard so many times. The last time she said it last week , was the final slam. She can be so sweet, when I am doing things for her, it is very confsuing.

I feel so much for you and your pain, even though it does not help much, just know 'you are not alone'.

Here is that website and I hope it helps some. Please feel free to contact me at any time Anne