Hi Kellllo

Well...'im sorry for your pain, it is so hard to fathom.....all of it. Ok..have you read up much on borderline? I'm pretty sure my daughter has this. You mentioned your son is or (was) a transvestite? This would sort of go along, because borderlines usually have a big identity problem. They don't know WHO they are. We were talking about my daughter last night and the fact that she has so many different personalities. At one point I thought she had multiple personality disorder. She tries to act like a saint at times and at other times I don't even recognize her when shes acting like a complete hardened criminal....(it depends on who shes hanging out with at the time). They don't have a real personality of their own,,so they are kind of like  a camelion......taking on someone elses personality.....I hope you find answers...sadly most of us have to read all we can and take our experiences and decide or diagnose for ourselves or come to our own conclusions, because these things are so hard to get definitive answers on. Good Luck>d.j.