Hi. I think the hardest thing we have to come to terms with..and its not all about the bad stuff they do..its the fact that they are people in their own right and will go their own way.....no matter what.......but with disordered kids, there doesn't seem to be a future..........not for them.and so not for us as parents either. I can't accept my daughter's behaviour.and because I am her parent, I have felt responsible for her, tried to help her and wanted her to be happy and succeed........she can't have any of this cos of her own behaviour. Everybody here tried to help and support her....yet every year, her behaviour and actions become worse and more damaging to all around her. we do have periods with her when we think.great, we turned a corner.but these times are very short lived and as soon as they are over we end up worse than the last drama we had with her.and she loves every minute of outwitting and manilpulating us all..and of course, every drama costs me more and more energy and definitely more money..and everytime I post on here, I think.....what am I doing even thinking that thsi will turn out right in the end?...cos I know it won't.