Hi I can understand you feeling so distressed. You have been through a terrible time. I dont have the answers but----my 16yr old son is a P. I do not believe that any child with a personality disorder can "catch it" from their environment. There are thousands/millions of "disfunctional Families" (and who defines a family as disfunctional?) who do not have children with personality disorders.I believe it is genetic.Also it has been proven that their brains are completely different in size and shape.All these kids want to be seen as victims and this appears to be what your D is doing. They are so manipulative. They never take responsibility for anything and do not care who they hurt----this is usually the person who loves them most. When they are ignored--they cry and gain more sympathy--they feed off our emotions.

This site is great for venting and hearing others experiences and knowing you are not alone.

Most of us feel guilty for the way our childern are but that is mainly the fault of our ignorant society. It isnt normal the way our kids act but that is because they are not normal. It is not your fault that your D acts the way she does.

I hope you find some peace here

zin