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From: cenders  (Original Message)Sent: 17/10/2006 5:48 a.m.
Eleven years ago my husband and I adopted twins from Chile. A girl and a boy they were 2 1/2 years old when we brought them home.  I hate to admit this but the first time I looked into my new son's eyes I felt a chill they were cold angry eyes. I tried to ignore those feelings thinking maybe it was my imagination. Things were really bad when we came home -he didn't want to listen or be a part of our family we went to all sorts of therapy and it always seemed like I was the problem - he acted totally different around his Father but his father was only home on weekends - he never showed any signs of empathy or a conscience but my husband would not believe me I even went on anti-depressants to get through he was a manipulator and was just horrible to his twin sister.  About a month ago my whole world fell apart my 10 year old Granddaughter had a breakdown and it all slowly came out he has been sexually abusing his sister and 2 of our granddaughters for about 7 years right in my own home!!!And by abuse I mean actual penetration and oral sex!! Children's Services took him to a group home but my whole family and extended family are falling apart we're all in therapy and right now my Daughter (mother of one of the victims) is in a mental hospital because of this .  They want me to go to therapy with this child -right now I can't how can I ever trust him again he has always been a liar but the trickery and threats he used on his victims is unbelievable - he started out with attachment disorder but I never expected this . I always had a fear that he'd eventually end up in jail but not for doing something like this to his sister and the rest of the family.  I just don't know where to turn I feel guilty for not protecting the girls and I don't know what I should have done to prevent him from being like this.  My husband and others made me feel like I had the problem not my son like I was just finding fault with him all these years and he cleverly manipulated everyone to believe him when he faked feelings he would even brag about how he could turn on tears,etc. he's doing that with his case worker now-do they ever really change? What is he capable of doing when he's older if he's like this now at 13?


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     re: my adopted son   XtraMSN Nicknametwinkletoes678  17/10/2006 8:25 a.m.
     re: my adopted son   XtraMSN Nicknamesilverlining  17/10/2006 9:57 a.m.


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