Groovybluntgrandma,

  I want to thank you for your nice reply, I know that being a grand parent is hard enough as it is but when you have a child that is a NPD or worse, your conerns are far more great, as you say about your daughter who is 6 months along, she is playing the same game as my daughter, the baby is only a tool to get back and stay in your life, it seems they can't get enough of our love so they will find a way to keep on getting it, I would have never moved my daughter back into our home except the man she was with had put bruises on my 4 month old grand daughters ribs and the relatives kept telling me and my husband to get her out of there before he kills them both.  For the 6 years she lived with us she never wanted anything to do with the baby and we were afraid to put the child on her due to her abusive behavior towards her.  She doesn't know how lucky she is to have a normal child.

   I have been sick with worry and I don't think that will ever change, the only thing we can be grateful for is the fact that we bonded with our grand daughter, she knows how much we love her, and she knows how much her mother doesn't.  I hope and I will pray for you and your family, don't let your daughter manipulate you in to taking care of the baby unless you go and have legal docs made up for legal gaurdian, that was the one mistake we didn't finish.  God bless this site and everyone in it, I have a place to voice my concerns.  take care