Hi goosie..sorry you are having a bad day..You could have been writing my story .....our lives are very similar at this point. I used to sit at night after I had put the baby to bed.would be so tired I couldn't think straight.would look at the messy toys and clothes and general stuff he had left behind.and wouldn't have the energy to get up off the sofa and move it...would finally get it done and then would do the other things you just can't get done with a toddler under your feet.........then, P here wanted the baby back.he was useful......she needed him he was a delicious tool in so many ways.....we went down the court route, everything I asked for, I was granted...everybody belived me and could see P for what she was..........but, here in UK, no court is ever going to remove a mothers rights......we were granted residence(bit like custody but she retained her rights, baby had to live here but she had access). The court set down dates and times when P could have access to him unsupervised.......even though I told the court she would abscond, they gave me everything they could do.and of course, she ran....in breach of a court order. these Ps don't respect anything, not the law, not anything.certainly not a court order. One thing during all this, P wanted the fight.....loved every minute of it, the eternal victim etc.after she ran, the lawyers said I could have taken the baby back.....by force if neccessary....but all that would have happened is the bbay would have been distraught and it would have all kicked off again......and my legal bills were already enormous.not that that would have matterred.I would have swapped my home gladly to have kept that baby here and safe.......so, now we wait.