I am so sorry that you have endured this and know well what you have been through as my daughter did so similarly.She was cruel to her siblings yet 'good' at church so I tried to get her involved with as many church activities as possible.When she hit puberty she started to point out howmany of her friends were already having sex, some she claimed since they were 12.

 

I have  a deep faith in Jesus and she seemed as though she might get saved and faked it at one point and I had hoped that somehow with enough exposure to decent people that she wouldnt follow the way of her friends.She acted as though she was disgusted with their behaviors so I hoped at least she'd stay a virgin, although there were many other issues she encountered.

 

I told her that she could start dating after her 16th birthday, but instead she pretended she wanted to commit suicide and demanded I put her in a hospital. Instead I sent her to school and I sought help for her. As I was getting information on teenage mental health, she was in school calling childrens services telling them to save her from her 'religious fanatic mother' that was trying to get her committed!! She had twisted it so much.

 

Initially they believed her and placed her in their custody for 6 months and threatened to take my other children if i objected to their keeping her. She wasnt satisfied to run away but was trying to destroy my family as well.

I told them the truth about her but they didnt believe me .

 

Her case worker informed her that she could go out and have sex if she took birth control and took her to a GYN doctor and then 'turned' her out! Then to cover their tracks, pretended that I had threatened the foster parents[which I had not] and they turned in a false report to the police which for some unknown reason, went into the newspapers saying I had been arrested for going to the foster home and making threats, which I never did nor was I ever charged or even questioned. I went to the police in that town where she was and asked for the officer that was quoted in the newspaper and he introduced  himself. I asked him about the article, he read it and said "what do you want to know?" .. I asked if it was true that he had arrested 'this' woman... He said if the paper said it that he did~ I said that is very curious. He asked me why?  I told him I was that woman~! he then backpeddaled and said it was a mistake and that he had gone by the word of the foster parent and my daughter and that the newspaper misquoted him....

 

I then contacted a lawyer to protect me and when we went to court over custody, they held the hearing 15 minutes earlier and gave custody 6months to the agency and I was not allowed to even speak to the judge~

 

I couldnt understand how this could happen in reality. I was a good mother and still am but they had her none the less. Within 4 months she claimed she was pregnant and suddenly a young man came to my house saying he was the father of the baby and that they wouldnt allow her to see him anymore and moved her and that he needed my help to save her and her baby!!!

 

I called my lawyer but was told that everything was on hold for 6 months. Meanwhile she managed to contact her boyfriend and ran away to Maryland and married him~ The agency to cover themselves, 'emancipated' her and they returned to the area to live with his parents who took them to Mexico for a few weeks and when they came back she wasnt pregnant. I never found out if she lied about the pregnancy or had an abortion~

 

Within 2 months they were fighting and he was arrested for beating her in public and eventually they broke up before her 17th birthday.

 

She never got involved with drugs or heavy into alcohol, but wouldnt come home after they broke up and blackmailed me to pay her rent and she went to school while I paid her rent in a town 120 miles away from home.If I hadnt paid her rent she said she would quit school and prostitute herself, so I paid the rent. Later she calmed down a bit and I would spend the weekends with her and she wasnt as abusive til she turned 18.

 

God! what a nightmare that time was... Her brother and her were always very competititve and when she heard he planned on going in the Army, she impulsively joined first to show him up... After she got in she realized she didnt want to be there, so she found a young Marine and got herself pregnant and got out of the Army after about 4 months.

 

Her Marine, paid for her divorce and they married and now are having their 7th child. I wrote about that on another post. She is a very abusive controlling parent. WE broke contact 2 yrs ago as  she was also manipulating me and abusing her children in front of me to display her dominance.

 

How can these monsters make it into  this world? She was such a cute baby.............