You did nothing wrong in holding back with the information because you were doing what you believed was right and what a nightmare

 

His father killed his mother in front of him - my God - he saw that and I know he may have had trouble calling the memory into his conscious mind but these things don't go away

 

And for both of you and for everyone else with adopted children who keep pushing and pushing

 

The damage was done before we got them - and we did and do our best and I am still wondering about the best thing to do with children that are available for adoption

 

I know I made a mistake adopting him - but I was young and ignorant and wanted a baby and they sure did keep the truth about the illegality of adoption of stolen children back then

 

I have no advice - all I can do is read your stories and assure you that it's not your fault

 

I don't know if fault can be laid and anyone's feet

 

But I don't believe in adoption now - I mean - anyone can adopt someone if they want to - it's up to them

 

But when we adopt a baby or small child - we have no idea of what is coming to our door-step at the same time

 

Sparky

 

BTW - there is information about Adopted Children on the side board

 

There is an article - I think it's published on-line here called The Primal Wound

 

It won't answer all your questions but it may be a start