Hi Saddened

 

I am sorry to read your story - and you have come to the right place

 

Everyone here - EVERY ONE of us

 

Knows what your daughter is putting you through

 

I don't know if you can find a TOUGH LOVE programme where you are living. What TOUGH LOVE says is

 

"We love you but we hate what you are doing. If you want to do it - go away and do it somewhere else"

 

TOUGH LOVE is hard - it is tough love - but it is the only way to go

 

My kids' dad and I started that programme and when we signed up we were warned that some of these kids die

 

And ours did.

 

Your daughter is threatening suicide and there is every chance that it might happen - whether she really means to or not and -

 

One thing that is important is to realise that there are people out there for whom there are no boundaries except death and if they take that road then that is their choice as hard as it is for the rest of us - and we can be here for you if that happens.

 

The other thing is that she's female. Female children can present us with grandchildren that can be a bone of contention.

 

You have to protect yourself and the other members of your family and go every hard road and be as hard as you have to be for the well-being of everyone else in the circle.

 

About raising an "evil" child. I know I saw my son as evil from when he was a baby - and I have two children and I know the difference.

 

The first was an adopted child - a boy - who eventually killed himself

 

Our daughter was the surprise - the baby I was told I was most unlikely to have

 

She's wonderful - and she rarely talks about her brother - she's 36 now and when she gets older she might.

 

Write what ever you need to

 

Sparky