Crewzer May I ask how old you are? I think this is so hard for us all because we have tried to do the right thing and we still get crapped on. I think going over and over it in our heads is the worst thing we can do, but I know it's hard. Life is NOT fair. I am almost 50, my youngest is almost 18. My oldest is the NPB....(she's got it all). I've been working my ass off for years as a single (divorced) mom (my ex did virtually NOTHING but send me a few hundred bucks every once in a while). All my girls are lazy, but the younger two are sweet. The oldest has put me through hell for years. At any rate....It's MY TURN NOW. I've done my job. What I'm doing is selling everything I have and moving away (where its cheaper and I wont have to work so hard)....and I plan on creating a peaceful life for myself (what little there is left of it).(my health isn't the best, I'm an RN and I've picked up hepatitis from one of my patients along the way-lucky me) I'm going to help my parents in there old age, shun any and all drama, let the kids help ME for a change. If my kids want any relationship with me, they'll have to be civil, normal, and drama free...and they'll have to make the effort to come see me. So I may never see them again..haha....seriously. My grandkids are little so I'll try to call them regularly and see them as much as I can without my daughters involvement. This may not happen if she does'nt let it. Theres NOTHING I can do about that...it's like that old poster about ....to change the things I can and let go of the things I can't,,blah, blah...You know the one. I talk too much...but the point is..you deserve a peaceful life..because lifes too short...don't waste another minute of it getting "sucked in" to these kids b.s. We can vent here and I'm thankful for it..we can feel each others pain and empathize with each other...dj |