Sorry to here things aren't going well! If it helps mine never apoligises at least not too often. If so its like just Relax! YA RIGHT! LOL! Not when I'm ticked. We will listen if it helps!

Sandini

its just so stupid you know? but it was important to me.

i had written a letter to a serviceman, and i'm new to this.

so i wanted roomie, or whatever you want to call him, cuz i dont,

anyway i wanted him to read it.  it was my 1st letter , and he had just got home. said he needed time to focus, cuz i guess the alabama heat got to him. so i asked if i could read it to him? he got all kinds of upset and throws a little hissy fit. nothing dangerous mind you, but it upset me.

  he says well read it to me then....i didnt...his mouth said one thing, his attitude said something else. hes upset with me! but being me, i tried to apologise...yeah like that worked.

  he sat there all upset cuz i got upset with him, and it was MY fault!

  i cant tell you how much that hurt!

i told him i got upset becuz that meant alot to me...

  he went and took a nap....now hes up andi still tried making nice.

    hes in a funk about something, and i feel invisible. like what mattered means squat. it hurts soooo much.

while he slept i cried, but i tend to cry inside.

   part of me dont care anymore, especially when he says....well, do what you want to do in that voice.

   i came in to this house while i was in the middle of a divorce. he opened his house to me like he would do for anyone.

since i've been here i've paid the rent,and what i can with bills.

  some days i feel used you know?

then this? i thought we were friends, maybe more. now i wonder what i am??? he still hasnt apologised, and it hurts...

guess my feelings mean squat.

  gsees

 

Men just don't always understand things like woman do, their clueless to some things. I'm sorry you got hurt. I think it's wonderful you wrote to a serviceman. So this guy you live with is a friend, does he pay any rent or bills?

 

 

I don't understand either...is he a boyfriend or friend?  The one you are living with?

 

If he's a boyfriend, maybe it would be a good idea to become a penpal to a woman in the service instead of a man. 

 

I may be way off base, but not understanding the situation....just throwing in my thoughts.

 

I also don't think men like to be "hit" with questions when they first get home (you mentioned in your post he had just come in)....I know I, as a woman, don't.  I like to come in and relax for a minute before discussions.

 

Regardless....your feelings are important....maybe it just got all blown out of portion.

we are close friends, and maybe unoffically boyfriend/girlfriend. i dunno...its all rather confusing to me too.

we've had sex before....so i'm not exactly sure what to call him...

  he pays his share...

technically this was his house, and he opened it up to me.

after i moved in i started paying my share...

  he's not feeling well today, and i thin k his blood pressure is whacked out too....

   so i'm thinking  we probly just had a misunderstanding, and with him not feeling good, and my hormones all acting up....it got a little out of hand.

   today is much better..

gsees

I learned early in my marriage that when my dh just gets home from work to let him unwind, etc before trying to get mcuh conversations going or wanting something etc.

think i'd know that by now... give them a few.

sometimes i just get sooo excited about stuff and dont think.

ooops

gsees

It's actually a LEFT BRAIN...RIGHT BRAIN  THING

Or women are from Venus men from Mars!

 

We communicate on a different level. They can only think of one thing at a time and if something is occupying that space, we need to give them room to move onto our needs!