I have been in competitive performing art all of my life.  Dance, music, singing, art, etc.  If I learned anything from that it is the nature of the competitive drive of humans...the desire to win, or prove oneself.  Some see this as the path to perfection.  But what IS perfection?  Who decides what is perfect?  That is the catch.  Perfection, like beauty, is in the 'eye of the beholder'.  There can be no true universal perfection as the 'judges' are forever changing.  So what can one do?  I have learned that you can not go into a competition, or life in general, with a goal to 'beat' others, for that will only lead to failure in the long run.  You can not go into it with the mindset that you are better than others, or more talented.  When it all comes
down to it, the only way to come out on top is to be the best you can be by nobody's standards but your own.  By approaching things in that manner, whether you are first place, 2nd, 3rd or otherwise, you will still win in the end.

 

Let's take it to another level.  Physical perfection.  Why is it...that people are always wanting what they do not have?  If we have straight hair we want curly, if its curly we want straight, if we are skinny we want more curves, if curvy we want to be skinny, if we are tall we want to be shorter, if short we want to be taller, etc. etc.  So many times I have heard people say..."I wish I was more like him or her."  Don't you know that you were built the way you are for a purpose?!!  Be proud of what you are because you were constructed that way for a reason.  When you find your purpose in life you will see why.  Look within.  See what your strengths and abilities are.  Make a list of them...what have you always been naturally good at?  What have you always been drawn to?  What have you always been complimented on?   

 

You need to find your own personal individuality, not what society deems the latest fad of perfection.  If you follow the media concept of perfection you will eventually lose your identity.  Think about it.  Every year there is a new and different "IN" to live up to which starts off with the runway modelling world, is seen then in the movies, ultimately making it's way into the mainstream public.  What the media shows us is fabricated.  In the movies, TV, magazines, and such, it requires several takes to reach their vision of perfection.  They use special lighting, make-up, hair stylists, fashion designers, carefully choreographed movements, camera angles, and then finish it off with tweaks of details like airbrushing imperfections, cutting away flaws and other editing.  Just as a painter attempts to create a perfect world on his or her canvas, so do the writers, directors, actors, set designers, cinematographers, and so on.  That is art.  Art is only a reflection of life, not life itself.

 

Do not change yourself for someone else.  If you alter yourself to be a version of somebody else's idea of perfect, you are cheating yourself.  Not everybody actually likes the media's or other people's ideals.  Strive to reach your natural perfection designed for you personally. If you are looking for a mate, wouldn't you rather have someone who loves you for what you naturally look like and who you are typically?  No matter how you look, if you don't FEEL you look or are at your best, you will send out vibes of insecurity, negativity and doubt.  Both men and women are attracted to people who have self-confidence, someone who is proud of the person they are inside AND out.  Noone wants a needy or clingy partner.  We all need our individuality and time to persue our own personal enjoyments.  A relationship is a team - one compliments the other and vice-versa.  A unified front, but seperately strong as well.  Find your true self and your true partner will arrive as a complimentary addition to you and your life.

 

You ARE perfect.  As no snowflake is like another, yet they are all perfect in their own right, so are you.  Look within, find your true self, and you will find your personal perfection.

 

 

Live, Love, & Learn

In Love & Light

~Gypsy