Whether some thinks *I'M* out of line, doesn't really matter to me...
Terry, you placed an add in the group in March of this year, wanting to hook up and now that your lady is gone you feel it's necessary to mention the fact that she's gone?
You need some serious time (and perhaps counseling) to grieve (if in fact you were ever hurt by this poor womans passing).
Personally, I don't think this is the place for you, but as I've been reminded MANY times, "to each their own".
Good luck, whatever you do.
TC