Is It Love or Infatuation? Infatuation is instant desire, one set of glands calling to another. Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time. Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager,but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon examine too closely. It might spoil the dream. Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond You, to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by his presence,even when he is away. Miles do not separate you. You want him near.But near or far, you know he is yours and you can wait. Infatuation says, "We must get married right away. I can't risk losing him/her." Love says, "Be patient. He/She is yours. Plan your future with confidence." Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are in one another's company you are hoping it will end in intimacy. Love is the maturation of friendship. You must be friends before you can be lovers. Infatuation lacks confidence. When they're away, you wonder if he's cheating. Sometimes you check. Love means trust. You are calm, secure, and unthreatened. He/She feels your trust and it makes him even more trustworthy. Infatuation might lead you to do things you'll regret later, but love never will. Love lifts you up. It makes you think up. It makes you a better person than you were before. Updated June 25. 2004 | | | | One other point, if you would take a few seconds and read the following e-mail regarding this page that the Elders received and hopefully this page might help you out one day also. Date: 8/7/2001 9:43:56 PM To: [email protected] <[email protected]> CC: Rita Sosa <@hotmail.com> From: "CathiSosa" <@email.msn.com> Subject: Love/Infatuation I was going though this site and read this story. I first read this story in a column of the news paper about five years ago. I couldn't help but clip this story and save it. To this day I carry it with me. When I first read it, I realized that I wasn't ready for love (at the moment). A few years went by... I met the man I am currently with. We had been dating for a while when I found the clip out folded in a pocket of my wallet. I took it out and read it to him and it helped us both to realize that we are meant to be together. We didn't rush in to anything. We are still taking our time, we learn, talk, share, love, laugh, and are bestfriends together. Before we decide to get married, we want to make sure it is right. I have finally found someone who I can give my love, my life my every thing to. My point is that this story touched me so many years ago, and is still affecting my decisions today. Whomever wrote this, well I owe alot to them. They have helped guide me through many relationships and into one that is all about love. Even if my boyfriend and I don't get married, we still have become the best of best friends. That means more to me than anything. Do you have a question or comment? Just click above to E-Mail the Elders of this group, and we will try to handle your issue(s) as soon as possible. |