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Abused Souls : Stalking: Characteristics of Victims, Part 3
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From: MSN NicknameLadyinKansas2  (Original Message)Sent: 9/30/2005 12:08 AM

Characteristics of Victims

Ex-Intimates Friends and Acquaintances Professional Contacts Work Contacts Strangers the Famous

Of those surveyed, 86% of Texas women report being the victim of stalking at some point during their lifetime. Nearly 15% of those women report experiencing some fear for their safety or the safety of their family as a result of their victimization. Every part of the state of Texas exhibits this pattern of the incidence of stalking. Since these figures do not include cases involving victims under the age of 18, they are likely to be substantial underestimates of the true number of women who were stalked each year in Texas.

Ex-Intimates:
From Long-term Relationships
(a) Women who previously shared a romantic relationship with the stalker.
(b) Ex-intimates are the most common type of stalking victim. Seventy-one percent of Texas women who report
being the victim of stalking indicate that their stalker was a current or former intimate partner.
(c) 76% were physically abused while still in the relationship with their former partner.
(e) 29% report being sexually assaulted by the stalker.
(f) Ex-intimates are likely to be between 18 and 29 when the stalking starts.
(g) Most were pursued by their stalker for at least one and a half years. Over a third were pursued for two years or
more.
(h) Ex-intimates are 4 times more likely to be physically assaulted and 6 times more likely to be sexually assaulted
than women who are not stalked by a former romantic partner.
(i) They are exposed to the greatest range of harassment methods, such as:
- Repeated phone calls
- Persistent following
- Threats of violence
- Actual violence
- Sexual assault
(j) Ex-intimates are subject to very persistent stalking.
(k) They are often the object of severe jealousy from the former partner who stalks them.
(l) Ex-intimates are among the most likely to seek help from law enforcement and counseling services.
From Shorter, Dating Relationships:
(a) Ex-intimates are less likely to be the victim of violence if stalked by a former dating partner than if stalked by a
former long-term partner.
(b) May inadvertently encourage stalking behavior by accepting dates even though they see no future in the
relationship because of fear of hurting the man's feelings.
(c) If they try to end the relationship, the man will typically react in a childish, pathetic manner. This may make
the victim feel guilty and lead her to agree to some kind of continuing relationship with the stalker. Again, this
decision may inadvertently encourage the stalker to continue his behavior.
(d) Ex-intimates are among the most likely to seek help from law enforcement and counseling services.

Friends and Acquaintances:
(a) The victim may be stalked by an
intimacy seeker or an incompetent suitor motivated by a desire to start a romantic relationship with the victim.
(b) They may be stalked by a
resentful stalker, typically a neighbor, who may be involved in a disagreement with the
victim about something such as noise, the location of a tree, or pets.
(c) The resentful stalker's grudge may escalate to:
- personal threats
- complaints to law enforcement and local government
- property damage
- theft or killing of pets
- letters or notes on the victim's car or house
- breaking into the victim's house or apartment
- watching the victim's movements
- physically assaulting the victim
(d) The resentful stalker also may target the victim's family and friends
(e) Law enforcement involvement is difficult when the resentful stalker is a neighbor because their residence is in such close proximity to the victim.
(f) Many victims move to a different location as a way to avoid the stalker. Although this action may seem drastic, it is most often an effective solution.

Professional Contacts:
(a) Typically work in helping professions such as:
- Health care providers
- Lawyers
- Teachers
(b) Professional contacts are more likely to be stalked by all the different types of stalkers.
- Stalkers are most likely to be
intimacy seekers, incompetent suitors, or resentful stalkers.
-
Rejected stalkers may pursue these victims after a professional therapeutic relationship is ended.
- Patients, clients, and students of these victims may also become
sexually predatory.
(c) They are also likely to be sexually harassed by their male stalkers.

Workplace Contacts:
(a) Stalkers may be supervisors, fellow employees, service providers, clients, or others who show up at the victim's
workplace.
(b) Almost half of stalkers show up at their victim's workplace.
(c) Victims are typically stalked by
resentful stalkers or rejected stalkers, but may also include intimacy seekers and
incompetent suitors who target a fellow employee as the object of their affections.
(d) Stalking behaviors directed at victim may include:
- Sexual harassment
- Physical and sexual assaults
- Robberies
- Homicide
(e) The United States Justice Department found that in the U.S. between the years 1992 and 1996 over 2 million
people were the victims of violent crime in the workplace.
(f) This included:
- 1.5 million assaults
- 51,000 rapes
- 84,000 robberies
- Over 1000 homicides
- Disgruntled employees, usually
resentful stalkers, are responsible for most workplace homicides.
(g) They usually have a history of poor job performance, a high rate of absenteeism, and a record of threats and
confrontations with people in the workplace they resent.
(h) Victims often do not tell their co-workers or supervisors about the person who is stalking them because they fear reprisals from the stalker or feel embarrassed sharing such personal information with others in the workplace.

Strangers:
(a) Are victims who are not aware of any prior contact with the stalker.
(b) Are victims who are typically of high status in their community or social group.
(c) Are most commonly stalked by
intimacy seekers and incompetent suitors, but may also be stalked by sexually
predatory stalkers
or resentful stalkers.
- These stalkers may hide their identity from their victims at first, and reveal it after stalking their victim for some
time in order to get closer to them.
- Although intimacy seekers are less likely to physically assault their victims than other types of stalkers, they are
just as likely to make verbal threats.
- Victims may be initially flattered when stalker approaches them and respond politely. They may even agree to
go on a date with their stalker, after his many requests.
(d) This can have the unintentional effect of encouraging the stalker, leading him to believe that the victim loves him as
much as he loves her.
(e) Sexually predatory stalkers typically stalk their victims for shorter periods of time.
(f) They may perpetrate a range of acts against the victim, including:
- sexually abusive behaviors
- obscene phone calls
- rape
- sexual murder
- Resentful stalkers select a stranger as a victim because the victim is identified by the stalker as somehow
representing a group that they dislike.
(g) Their goal is to intimidate and instill fear in their victims.
(h) Their stalking behaviors may include:
- destruction of the victim's property
- verbal threats
- harassing phone calls
- physical assault, although this occurs only rarely

The Famous:
(a) Famous victims are prominent public figures.
(b) They are typically stalked by
incompetent suitors, the erotomanic, or resentful stalkers.
(c) Famous victims may be stalked by a number of different stalkers and a number of different types of stalkers at
the same time.
(d) Some of these stalkers have not had intimate relationships in their lives or may suffer from the
delusion that they
have a romantic relationship with their famous victim.
(e) It is uncommon for stalkers of famous people to be violent toward them.
(f) When violence does occur, it is usually because the stalker has been persistently rejected or realizes that their victim does not love them or want a relationship with them.


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