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As some need 6 hours of sleep a night while others need 8 or 9 hours, so do we also find differences in our need for sexual satisfaction. This can be another problem between people who are already pushing themselves to the limits of exhaustion in today's frenzied society... It is a problem that begs the question as to what we can expect of our partners and what we can expect of them IF we find that we are going around about how often we would like to make love...

How often do you need to make love to be satisfied with your sex life and what would you do if you found yourself with someone whose frequency needs were much higher or lower than your own? Would you make love because you are "expected" to or because you fear the consequences if you don't?

We meet, we date and we have sex like there is no tomorrow. We marry and continue the tradition, then it happens, all your practice has resulted in a baby, ot 2 or 3. After the 1st child is born, that's when the sex starts to go down hill. I don't mean quality of sex, just the quantity. You then move onto the stage of, get it when ever you can, we've all been there.."thank god, they are finally asleep". Some fall into what I'd call the rut of "it's saturday night, play night"!

Personally, I prefer the take it as it comes practice. Yes, sometimes it can be hit and miss...she's not in the mood or he's not in the mood.

When it gets to the stage where the one spsuse is always ready for sex and the other can't be bothered..well, it's time to sit down and have that chat. Voice your concerns and be fair about it.

How often do I want sex? I would have to say 2 to 3 times a week would be nice IF, you can't keep it interesting. Nothing worse than doing the same old thing, each and every time. Use your imaginations people. We are all different,which means , quite simply, we all have different needs at different times. Nobody should be "expected" to have sex, you shouldn't do it for fear of consequences if you don't. THAT, kind of sex is no fun at all.

Let's face it, when have you ever seen a man have sex, even when he doesn't want to....the plumbing don't work that way.

Lets see if we can get some more feedback from our other roomies on these topics.......anyone willing?

With new relationships there is always lust and urgency. Sex is frequent and passionate. In time, you can easily get into a rut and the sex life stagnates and it doesn't have to. There will be times that one does and the other doesn't, thats natural. What you have to do to keep it "active" is to keep it interesting. As they say foreplay starts long before the bedroom be it a hug, caresses when least expected, a kiss on the back of the neck, use your imagination. Make a simple game into something more passionate. The possibilities are endless, use your imagination. Depending on your lifestyle, job, stress level, sex at LEAST once a week is not unreasonable.

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