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Hi Friends I thought I was coping but I am not really. Ian left on Saturday morning, things had been really difficult for about a month, he did leave four weeks ago last time I told him to go, after he had let me down on yet another part-exchange deal with the house (that would have been the fourth) he came back and we went for another part-exchange deal only for him to do it again. He has always been unfair to my youngest daughter and she is now away at Uni but he had to have a go at her on Saturday morning when she was home for just one day. As some of you may know I have started a full-time degree course in Safety, Health and Environmental Management, and although that entails only one day per week attendance it does mean that the level of work is that of a full time course and I have a very full-time, quite stressful, job as well. I had asked him to take on the task of making our evening meal and also packing food for us the following day (I have always done this and he was happy for me to do it). He didnt want to take it on, said it would leave him no time to go to the gym or to sit down. I need the time to study, we had discussed this when it was first agreed that I would do the course (months ago) and also the course is part of my job requirement so i dont have a choice whether I do it or not. When I did my previous degree my then husband was not at all supportive, I had three young children, a part time (30 hour pw) job and my mum who needed 24/7 care living with me, and it was hell. I cant do it now. At 52 stuyding through the night is not an option, especially when i have to be up at 5.45am to get ready for work. Even though it was my decision to end the relationship I am finding it very difficult at work today, compounded by the fact that it would be our 2nd wedding anniversary tomorrow, and I just needed a shoulder to cry on - sorry, you were the only ones I could think of. Thanks for listening. love and light Linda xx |
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Hi Linda,you are in my thoughts and prayers, I have been where you are now I know it is very very hard,sending you lots of love and big hugs Thinking of you Mandy xx  |
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Hi Linda You will know in your heart what is truly best for you. Sending you loads of love. Take as long as you need Nova xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx |
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Sending you love and strength to get through this and emerge a happier you. Loads of love chazz xxxxxxxxxxx |
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Darling Linda I'm sending you all the love and healing you need sweetie pie. There is no rush, we will be here when you are stronger and able to come in and see us. You will get through this darling, it may be painful and hurt but you will get through it, and we're here to help with the tears and the pain if you need us. Love Erika xxxxxxxx |
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Dear Friends Thank you all so much for your kind support and understanding. I have had a bad weekend. We met on Saturday to try and talk things through but all he wants to do is moan about petty things and get at my kids. Anyone who knows anything about me at all would know that if my kids need a kick in the butt I will do it but no one else should criticise them and they are no where near as bad as he paints them. For a start of my daughters are hardly ever here! This morning I took the very rare step of not going to work. Not that I was physically unable to go but mentally I was a mess and not able to stand in front of a large group of people and present a training course as scheduled. I hate letting people down and I know that someone will cover, I really needed the time to sort myself out. I have used the day to clean the house from top to bottom, symbolic I suppose, finally clearing him out. I feel much stronger and my thoughts are clearer now, so I have cleaned out my mind as well. I thank you all, my good friends, for the love, prayers and thoughts that have been coming my way, especially as you have your own problems to sort out. I hope I can repay each and everyone of you when you need it. God bless Linda xx |
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Dear Friends Just to bring you up to date, I thank you all from the bottom of my heart for your support and prayers. I am now feeling really good. Ian is still trying to get me to take him back but I am now firmly in charge of the situation, told him that I will only have him back if I am sure it is the right thing to do for me and my family and that when he has something new to say he should contact me otherwise he should leave me alone. In the meantime I am on the way to sorting out my finances, consolidating the loans and credit card into one payment, shredded the credit card, worked out my weekly budget and although it is very tight when I have only me and my son to worry about I can just about do it. I am also building my base of local friends back up. This week I have not been in any evening, Monday I was rehearsing for our new production, The Armed Man, Tuesday I went to Yoga, tonight I am meeting a male colleague for a drink (someone I helped when he was in a similar situation and wishes to repay) and tomorrow night it is my son's 24th birthday and I have organised for 5 of us to go for a curry. I am in Friday which is just as well as I am preparing for a 10 mile walk with work colleagues on Saturday around the Settle/Grizedale area so a busy week for me. I am also getting on with my studies, I have handed in one first draft of one of 5 assignments (Corporate Manslaughter - joy) and on my way to a second. I can cope, I have the strength and you, my dear friends, have helped me tremendously so a very big THANK YOU!! love and light Linda xx |
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((((((((((((((Linda)))))))))))))))) It is wonderful to hear your happiness and postivity again Love Nova xxxxxxxxxxxx |
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Good for you Linda, remember we are right behind you. May the angels be by your side on your life's journey. Go get it girl! Polly xxxxxxxxx |
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Linda!!! That's absolutely wonderful! Just the remedy you need, keep motivated, keep busy and keep your head held high and smile!! As Polly said, we're right behind you, backing you up all the way! loads of love to you. chazz xxxxxxxxxxx |
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Dear Linda You seem to have found your inner strength and light and I am so happy for you. Sometimes, in the darkest times is when we find ourselves and realise that only we can make ourselves happy. Sending you tons of helaing energy and light xxxxxx Love Jewels |
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good for you girl time to look after you and what you want  xxxxxxnana |
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You definitely are the best friends anyone can have. |
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Way to go girl good luck, sending you healing, but I think you have got it all sussed out OK.
Love and Light Angel |
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So very pleased for you Linda, sending you lots of healing and love Mandy xx |
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