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Just a question - I am curious to know your thoughts

I know its all the trend now with dating younger people -- its seems to be accepted in society

Men say 45year old dating a 23year old girl

Lady say 45years old dating a 23year old guy

What are your thoughts - and would YOU date someone younger?

I think it depends on what the person is comfortable with. My sister's husband is 8 years younger than her. I tend to go in the other direction........my husband is 12 years older than me.

I don't think I'd go 22 years difference.. I'd like to have something in common with the person I'm seeing. After my divorce I did date a few guys 3 to 5 years younger(but in same gereration) . My Mom was 5 years older then my Dad..maybe that had something to do with it..LOL! I'm not the Holly/Heffner~ Anna Nicole/Loaded millionaire type..LOL

I love putting my foot in it with these things..lol..

First...I love older men...always have, always will...Second...as with all things in life and love..there are always exceptions to every rule...Many of these relationships work out, but this is about my opinion of them..

When all is said and done, I don't really care what other people do in their relationships...But the age thing is one I have at least questioned over the years...

My oldest brother has never been with a woman in his own generation..all have been half his age..Wonder if that's why he's been married 4 times...?My son is 34 this year...His g/f is my age(51)...Is that why there is so much drama and explosive on and off again romance between them?

I've been asked out by guys in their 20's...The whole idea just weirds me out.. I'm not interested in being a mother to any more kids....What little I have in common with them would hardly be a good basis for a relationship...I do like to talk sometimes..

I've just always felt it's some trophy thing...When I see an older guy with a younger woman my first thought is he's trying to prove something...whether to himself or his peers....When I see an older woman with a young man I think she's trying to hang onto her youth...or maybe just thinks the sex is better...

I just recently left a group I belonged to...I couldn't figure out why it wasn't working for me...until recently when someone brought up age....Most were in their 30's...I don't even like the same TV shows or music.....not to mention the mind set, or the way they work through problems..The things they are talking about doing, I've already done and moving to the next level....I have everything I want....I'm thinking about retirement..and travel. Things they can only dream about...A lot of them are just starting families....It was like being on another planet...I can't imagine living with one of them..

I've heard a lot of people say that age makes no difference...From where I sit I find it hard to believe...A few years either way I can understand...but when you're talking over a decade or more, I have to wonder about the real mechanics at work there..

I agree with both comments here

I am like you Lynni - I stuck to 5yrs either way

there is this guy I work with who is 40 (not my type at all) and he is so set on meeting a earlys 20yo girl - coz he wants kids is his reason

As if you cant have kids with a 30yo **rolls her eyes**

After hearing it for more than a year coz its not happening for him - or they date him for abit and then they are off with the next guy that comes by -- they dont wanna settle down

sorta made me think -- and I know this is an awful thought

-- but such a big age gap -- 20 plus years -- where is the fine line of paedophilia??

its sorta sending mixed signals to our kids isnt it????

I agree Blackhose

-- you say it sooooooooooo well

I enjoy reading your comments

You can tell you are a writer coz you are so good with words and expressing yourself

and I agree its our opinion - not everyone is the same

From: §heros

Sent: 3/5/2007 12:52 AM

First...I love older men...always have, always will...

Hmmm.... checks calendar.... Yep, I'm older!!

Before I got married, I always met and dated men a few years younger for some reason, hubby was 6mths older

My parents were 12 years apart and tho they had the same direction - they were so different and something I saw as I was growing up

I feel the same way Charmer - about younger guys - its like being in my kids company

I always wondered if people dated older coz of the father figure or mother figure they missed out on as a kid - that protected feeling

I have dated someone that is 20 years younger and we got along great!! The trend of dating someone younger is mainly a case of mind over matter ! If the two of you don't mind it doesn't matter!!!!!

Age may not matter to us,

but people around do not easily accept a mismatch of age.

With time i am also realizing that it is better to befriend same age people.

and that is why i am here..

Age is but a number,it largely depends on the individuals involved.I would(actually have)dated women 20 yrs my junior,but would never marry one that much younger.Tis a matter of compatibility,sharing common intersts and their present stage of life.I know of successful relationship where the couples have huge age differences,and as I said,it trually depends on the individuals.

tis but one's opinion

No, I'd feel extremely awkward dating a man younger than myself. A couple of years...no big deal. I'm raising two boys...don't want to raise a third!

My mom and my stepdad have been together over 25 years. He and I went to the same high school. Although they bicker a lot, I know they love each other.

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