Hi. It goes against every law of nature to walk away from our own flesh and blood.....but they are disordered and in order for us to survive their madness, we have to do these things. I can only imagine how miserable this must have made you......but it had to be done.

 

The ultimate guilt threat.suicide......well, sad as it is, if he is going to do it, nothing and nobody will stop him.

 

I have similar problems with my mother too. She was the first one to point me on the pyschopath road, she saw it first, but she is older and whenever things calm down, she gets a bit sentimental and starts the...well maybe she grew up by now stuff...I think my mother thinks this way aswell cos she wasn't directly targetted by P kid.I was..and we don't really see it 100% til we are the victim.

 

Pson ranted and raved cos he couldn't get his own way..a teenage tantrum maybe?.......You stick to what you know is best for you.

 

P kid here would never give her game away and tell you what she was going to do, she would tell you when she is nice she is at her worst......nobody would know how deadly she was going to be until afterwards....so, hopefully your son will have blown himself over with all the yelling and may not take anything further..also, my daughter would try to get someone to do her dirty work also....hard as it may seem, if you think the threats are real, you may have to go along the police/court route with him. good luck.

Shadow- I don't think it's a bad thing to get to the point that you don't care.  I may be getting there slowly.  I read a bumper sticker and had to laugh:  "I use to care but now I take a pill for that"! 

I cringed when I read what you went through. 

Another line is

 

"I'm not apathetic - I just don't care"

 

Which in my mind shows that I can about a lot of things - but not the decisions and consequences of people old enough to know better who are still 2 year olds having a tantie in a public place.

 

When people are two years old they don't have a social responsibility - they have needs that need to be met and things they want but might not get

 

Public humiliation is the name of the game

 

Name and shame the rotten parents who took my lolly pop away

 

Cry because I pulled my bike apart for the 20th time and now no one knows where all the nuts, screws and washers are - and don't care anymore either

 

Nuts, screws and washers - I coulds run a long way with that one - yes indeed.

 

Let them play the suicide card - if they are that desperate - then tell them no one is gunna write that obiturary. No one is likely to write a glowing eulogy and even if some one gets up and says

 

ALAS POOR YORRICK - I KNEW HIM WELL

 

They might be holding a skull in their hand but really - it's not their skull and not their funeral.

 

I know - they think thy have us ransomed for their precious lives - but they get less precious with every negative act

 

And here's the thing - they won't listen and won't read this or any other satirical comments

 

It won't end - but it strikes me as crazy that a bullying teenager can have his parents arrrested and questioned when everyone knows darn well what a hide that little dingbat is

 

Alas

 

BTW - That quote isn't mine - it's from Hamlet

 

Lin

Hi keepbeingtrue,

My 15yr ?P has just recently said to me that it is all my fault that he is the way he is and look at what we have done to him and how we have ruined his life-------I sat and thought about this for so long and all this guilt suddenly hit me but then reality took over when I looked at what he had, and still is, putting us through---there are no excuses for his behaviour. On the surface I am polite to him and that is it. I show him no attention or affection and now dont even react when he does something awful. At first I felt guilty for not punishing him but I know he does not learn from punishment and he sees emotions in me when I react to his behaviours and punish him. I find it so difficult not reacting to him.

My 18yr P and I have had NC for nearly 2 years apart from a few phone calls. We now live the other side of the world from him and as difficult as it has been, I have peace of mind. I know he can no longer hurt me. If we had stayed in the UK I honestly do not know how I would have coped because it would never, ever end as he would always be there just like my 15yr old----and I cant see a way out with him.

NC for me is definately the only way forward, the only way I can have some life. I pray for the day when my 15yr old is out my life and I can move forward again.

Kel

i want that bumper sticker. the pill is called klonopin(addiction risk). these p/n people can make you physically ill sometimes.my hubby practically begged me to work  through "the anger workbook".  he could see how i was being effected. so i sappose i'll be a good girl and do my homework-it was recomend by my favrite counselor my son ever saw in one of his many boobyhatch stays. may as well get something for the thou$and$ we spent on him before we wised up-belrose

shadow dancr-i'm going to use that as well.make a bumper sticker u 2 could be rich  

:)  belrose