oops.and as for genetics here....H is normal and so am I.but MIL is exactly the same as P kid number 1.as is BIL.......so maybe it can skip generations aswell?

 

I do know also that another BIL whos is normal has 2 bio kids that are nightmares..not had contact with these for 17 years, just heard it from other relatives..........yet this BIL isn't P...but these kids have had lots of contact with P MIL and P BIL.