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Hi Tacoma, I don't have any advice regarding what you're looking for...but think you might have better luck posting your question on the general message board...as it's more active. |
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Hi...I don't have any practical tips for this either cos its not something I encountered with P daughter.......there are many of us here who have had to deal with much grief and heartache...welcome to our group...sorry I can't be of more use . hugs. |
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| | From: femfree | Sent: 13/01/2007 2:09 p.m. |
Hi Marsha. This must be so difficult for you. I did notice you said she was a 'cutter'. This may be some indication of a future diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder. You may wish to ask her care givers/psychiatrists etc. about Dialectic Behaviour Therapy, here's one link I found: Learn as much as you can as fast as you can and protect yourself financially and emotionally. Hugs femfree Dialectic Behaviour Therapy developed by Dr. M. Lineham |
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Hey Tacoma Your daughter is still a minor so you do deserve to have some kind of diagnosis - especially as they are giving her meds which don't seem to be helping You could insist on some information - after all - unless she is in hospital or jail you are the one handing out the tablets - (I hope) You say she has been "acting out" for about 3 years. It sounds like something I call ASD - attention seeking devices I went though a lot of similar behaviour with my son except he got into hanging instead of cutting But he lied, stole, had motor vehicle offences and assault changes all on his juvenile record I had no diagnosis either and in his case the condition was fatal I certainly hope you can get some assistance - insist on it - before it's too late And please remember - this is not your fault Sometimes somethings goes wrong in the womb and it's happening more and more in our societies were children find a certain loss of social limitations once the reach pubery Good luck with it and please keep us informed Lin |
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| | From: Tacoma43 | Sent: 16/01/2007 7:15 a.m. |
Thanks so much for replying to me. Yes, the most frustrating part is that I do not know what is going on with Lisa. Doctors only say that she is depressed and has anxiety. She has been on so many different meds and nothing seems to help at all. She is very depressed and anxious but as her mom and being with her more than anyonein her life I can not deny that I see disturbing behaviors. She has also been in and out of juvenile detention for taking my car in the middle of the night and then driving miles away and then just leaving my car there after she has hit either poles or other vehicles. It's quite bizzare since she does this by herself with no particular destination and shows very little remorse for the damage she has caused. It's not like she is going for a teenage joy ride with her friends, which would be bad enough, but she does these kind
of things alone. As a result she is 16 and has 4 felonies on her record. She also shoplifts and doesn't care if she gets caught. She has her own money in the bank but will not spend it but would rather steal. It is very strange. She is a cutter and has scarred up both of her arms. 2 suicide attempts and has been hospitalized twice. Therapists and doctors are reluctant to diagnose because they say she is too young. I see symtons of borderline disorder, odd, etc. To me there is something very wrong and I am scared for her safety. She rages a lot and is very outspoken and rude. Has a difficult time making friends etc. There is so much more, but please tell me a bit more about your son....as far as his condition being fatal. I am so concerned and lost. BTW, where do you live? What is the best choice as far as getting a diagnosis? She sees a therapist weekly, but I don't feel that the therapist is qualified to idendify what is wrong. It seems she is just a sounding board.
Please write back
Brigitte
Tacoma/Seattle Wa.
From: "sparkysmoonlady" <[email protected]> Reply-To: "Coping with the Psychopath/Narcissist Child" <[email protected]> To: "Coping with the Psychopath/Narcissist Child" <[email protected]> Subject: Re: Need Opinions-New here Date: Mon, 15 Jan 2007 17:24:28 -0800
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From: sparkysmoonlady |
Hey Tacoma
Your daughter is still a minor so you do deserve to have some kind of diagnosis - especially as they are giving her meds which don't seem to be helping
You could insist on some information - after all - unless she is in hospital or jail you are the one handing out the tablets - (I hope)
You say she has been "acting out" for about 3 years.
It sounds like something I call ASD - attention seeking devices
I went though a lot of similar behaviour with my son except he got into hanging instead of cutting
But he lied, stole, had motor vehicle offences and assault changes all on his juvenile record
I had no diagnosis either and in his case the condition was fatal
I certainly hope you can get some assistance - insist on it - before it's too late
And please remember - this is not your fault
Sometimes somethings goes wrong in the womb and it's happening more and more in our societies were children find a certain loss of social limitations once the reach pubery
Good luck with it and please keep us informed
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Hi Tacoma, I'm also new here and have a son with some terrible problems. There is a 2 year old child tied up in our partiular saga, his child, who now lives with me. I apologise for being cynical, but please ensure your daughter has some form of birth control that does not rely on her taking a tablet, because if she fell pregnant, your nightmare will have only just begun. Little children do not need parents like thses kids. I'm sorry you are going through this, and have some understanding of how you must feel. I think a psychiatrist may be the best option for you. Ask around, some are more interested in youth and their problems. a psychologist will only give therapy, not a diagnosis. If it's abehavioural disoredr, you may never really have a diagnosis. My son is too clever for a psychiatrist, so continues on his merry destructive way. Goosie |
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| | From: Mom19831 | Sent: 10/02/2007 12:51 a.m. |
Hi, I'm new here too. My son, 23 is a psychopath. A scary psychopath. I too have legal custody of his two children ages 3 & 1.
Lin? Will you tell me about your son and what happened to him? |
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Hi Lin, U have just put a thougt into my head talkng about something happening in the womb. Whilst there is a high certainity that P is genetic, there seems to be an awful lot more of them than there used to be. When u say something cud have happene in the womb, it makes me wonder if docors playing god could play a part in that bcos if something is wrong with an unborn baby, the body will often abort it but now with medical science, there are things being done to stop women miscarrying. Just a thought. Kazza |
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