Hi femfree,  haven't been here in awhile.  Her father is involved to a degree, she spends a whole week in the summer and at xmas.  According to my wife he himself has hurt animals, broke a dogs leg they used to own, and he used to beat her until she left him.  I don't have a journal, but have a pretty good memory for when things like that have happened, afraid to keep a journal, don't want wife to find it, even though she's aware of what's being done.  Thanks for the advice