Hi.I am so sorry you have had such a hard time of life for the last few years.....there is nothing you can do to change your daughters outrageous behaviour.all you can do is  protect yourself. I understand only too well the pain from losing a  loved one to breast cancer.the overwhelming feeling of loss and confusion is almost too much to deal with..but then you have had so much more piled on aswell.......your D even wanted the limelight at your daughters funeral...... Your D wanted attention from you when everyone else needed you, then she tries the divide and conquer.......I am pleased to meet you.we all understand here how you feel and some of what you are going through. Hugs. genie.