Thank you so much for responding.  These issues have strained the relationship between my husband and me, taken a toll on my emotionally and physically.  I taught school for 35 years, dealt with children of all types and quite successfully.  No matter what I did, I could not help the relationship between my two daughters, or between the surviving daughter and myself.  She has resorted to divide and conquor by punishing me for having an association with my sibs (we've been together for 67 yesrs), and for paying attention to our neices and nephews.

 

It just breaks my heart that as a mother I cannot help my daughter.  I hear you saying the same thing.  Somehow, dealing with the guilt, knowing that you brought a child into this world who has to live a life of misery --  and they are in misery--  is just so unfair.  I am so grateful that I found this site.  Not sure if a relationship between (D) and family will ever be restored, but there is somewhere to talk.  Thanks so much, again.