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| | From:  MagicLizzy1 (Original Message) | Sent: 5/19/2004 8:14 PM |
Well, I'm new & have thrown out a few things on the message boards, but guess I should let you in on my story. . .fell down the stairs about 6 yrs. ago (thanks to my dog! a beautiful black german shepherd who I loved dearly & has since deceased) and have had pain in my R hip, L knee & L ankle ever since. What they have mostly found is brusing of the bursa sac around the hip joint (they wanted to remove it! I don't think so!) Can't take any antiflammitory drugs because of a lower GI bleed, so. . .have tried all the normal things like everyone else and have been to a million doctors (none of who wanted to prescribe pain meds in doses that would help). . .finally discovered we have a pain clinic in our area. They have helped me tremendously! Always willing to change meds or give more if something isn't working. Am now on 200 mcg. duragesic patch & 80 mg. methodone a day, with Buspar for the depression. The pain is constant day & night in my hip, but comes and goes in the knee/ankle. Have been on disability for 4 yrs (I was a medical office mgr) and really miss the person I use to be. My husband & I have hit a wall. . .going for counseling. . .it's like he's punishing me for not being the person he married anymore (married 16 yrs.) Treats me like an afterthought in his life. Hardly ever helps me when I'm having a really bad pain day or anyday as far as that goes. (half way up the stairs, bringing the laundry up, crying, said "Gee, it hurts today - he says nothing & turns around & walks away)& thats about how it goes every day (got a hotel room w. hot tub for my birthday, I went up early to go shopping - he calls & says he decided not to come, to tired to drive up there - 2 hr. drive - never did say Happy Birthday - got home 2 days later there wasn't even a card). . .like I'm not depressed enough with the chronic pain, he has to add more to the pile . . .Sorry I'm rambling. . .usually I'm an "up" person, guess it's gotten to me. . .the thought that I may be living alone again. . . On to family - have a daughter 30 yo, happily married, we're really close - doesn't live too far away - see her 5/6 times a year. . .have a stepson 33 yo - I haven't seen in 9 yrs. . .have a goofy cat, blk/white, likes to crash head first into the sliding glass door when the squirrel is at the bird feeder, he keeps me entertained most of the day. . .and 2 dogs. Well, now that I have bored whoever decides to read this to tears, at least you'll know who Magic Lizzy is - which, by the way, is my alter ego name from when I use to country western dance. . . Thanks for all of your info and being there when I can't see thru the tears. . . |
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| | | From: Dan | Sent: 5/19/2004 11:13 PM |
Hi, Magic. Welcome. I'm Dan one of the mangers here. You've probably seen my posts around.  Unfortunately, your story isn't all that unusual. Many of us have had problems with our spouses or are having problems. They're all the same problem, really. The spouse is tired uf us hurting all the time. My wife divorced me oh... it's been about 5 years ago now. I was devastated. I had just been demoted and sent out to the field from the Home Office of my company, more or less in disgrace, and the last thing in the world I needed was for her to walk out on me, so of course, that's exactly what she did. At least your husband is offering to go to counseling with you. That's a big positive step. If he cares enough to do that, then it's possible there's still something there, and maybe all is not lost. I sure hope not. Those of us who still have loving and supportive spouses are really so lucky. And they know it too. There are a few out there, believe it or not, who have great hearts and lovely souls and stick with their spouses through year after year of this pain thing. It's just a joy to see these women talk about their husbands and there's a couple of men who have wives who are hanging in there with them too. Hopefully, this counseling will work for you and your husband. Also, it sounds like you've got a good pain clinic, and that's terrific. So many of us can't find anyone to help us with our pain. I know I went through a lot of doctors, and I think 3 pain clincs before I finally got to the Baylor pain clinic where I found my current doctor. She's been a Godsend. It's good to have pets, you know. Pets love us no matter what's wrong with us. They're not fair weather friends, are they? I have a cat, and I love her dearly. Well, as you can see, I did read through your post, and I hope the things I've responded with have been at least interesting. Listen, if you have any questions, let us know. OK? Healing hugs and lots of love, Dan |
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| | | From: venica2 | Sent: 5/20/2004 3:49 AM |
you are not alone-going through this myself. no husband to wait
on-but kids stay away-cant help them any more-gets really lonely.
darilyn
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| From: MagicLizzy1 |
Well, I'm new & have thrown out a
few things on the message boards, but guess I should let you in
on my story. . .fell down the stairs about 6 yrs. ago (thanks to my dog! a beautiful black german shepherd who I
loved dearly & has since deceased) and have had pain
in my R hip, L knee & L ankle ever since. What they
have mostly found is brusing of the bursa sac around the hip
joint (they wanted to remove it! I don't think so!) Can't
take any antiflammitory drugs because of a lower GI bleed, so. .
.have tried all the normal things like everyone else and have
been to a million doctors (none of who wanted to
prescribe pain meds in doses that would help). . finally
discovered we have a pain clinic in our area. They have
helped me tremendously! Always willing to change meds or
give more if something isn't working. Am now on 200 mcg.
duragesic patch & 80 mg. methodone a day, with Buspar for
the depression. The pain is constant day & night in my hip,
but comes and goes in the knee/ankle. Have been on
disability for 4 yrs (I was a medical office
mgr) and really miss the person I use to be. My
husband & I have hit a wall. . .going for counseling. .
.it's like he's punishing me for not being the person he married
anymore (married 16 yrs.) Treats me like an afterthought
in his life. Hardly ever helps me when I'm having a really
bad pain day or anyday as far as that goes. (half
way up the stairs, bringing the laundry up, crying, said "Gee,
it hurts today - he says nothing & turns around & walks
away)& thats about how it goes every day (got a hotel room w. hot tub for my birthday, I went up
early to go shopping - he calls & says he decided not to
come, to tired to drive up there - 2 hr. drive - never did say
Happy Birthday - got home 2 days later there wasn't even a
card). . .like I'm not depressed enough with the chronic
pain, he has to add more to the pile . . .Sorry I'm rambling. .
.usually I'm an "up" person, guess it's gotten to me. . the
thought that I may be living alone again. .
On to family - have
a daughter 30 yo, happily married, we're really close -
doesn't live too far away - see her 5/6 times a year. . have a
stepson 33 yo - I haven't seen in 9 yrs. . .have a goofy cat,
blk/white, likes to crash head first into the sliding glass
door when the squirrel is at the bird feeder, he keeps me
entertained most of the day. . .and 2 dogs. Well, now that
I have bored whoever decides to read this to tears, at least
you'll know who Magic Lizzy is - which, by the way, is my alter
ego name from when I use to country western dance. .
.
Thanks for all
of your info and being there when I can't see thru the
tears. . . | |
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Thought I would catch this up . . . the pain clinic now has added morphine to the mix . . . so I take the morphine for breakthrough (up to 120mg. daily) during the day & the methodone (up to 80mg. daily) for breakthrough at night. . . (I'm still on the Duragesic patch also) it has been working so much better. . . the methodone during the day was making me so tired . . . morphine doesn't do that to me . . . but geez, howdy, don't take the morphine during the night! Keeps me up, for sure . . . My husband & I have been getting along much better now . . . he even remembers to ask me about my day & act interested . . . haha . . . hopefully it will continue . . . Well, there you have the update . . . Hugs to All, Magic Lizzy |
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So happy to see that things are going a little better for you. The pain issue sounds like it is headed in the right direction as much as it can and I am glad that hubby is trying. Things will hopefully get better and better for you. Hang in there! Hugs, Katie |
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Updating again . . . . . . divorced . . . so much for things getting better . . . got so tired of being last on his list of things that were important to him . . . then there were other things that I felt were disrespectful . . . one day the last straw dropped . . . & well, here I am, living alone . . . but it was like I was living alone when I was with him anyway . . . so . . . moved to Vancouver, WA because my daughter was across the river in Portland, Ore. but because of job situations her & her husband moved back down to Redding CA . . . I decided to stay here . . . her & I lost something during the divorce . . . when I needed her most, she told me to go back to him (along with quite a lot of other negetive things) . . . after it had taken all my strength to finally stand up & say "You are not going to treat me like this any longer!" and leave him . . . she apologized later . . . but once the words are out there, it's hard to forget (like"gee Mom you look like crap" - oh really, well, it's only my lowest point in life . . . thanks for the uplifting comment) She was so rude to me . . . it still hurts . . . well, anyway . . . my pain has been a little better (usually) . . . since I got out of a stressful marriage . . . I'm off the Duragesic patch & on the long acting morphine . . . take methodone & MSIR for breakthrough . . . works most of the time . . . just not the last few days . . . Guess I'm updated . . . Hugs to all, Lizzy  Sorry . . . I've lost my magic lately . . . as soon as I find it, I know I'll feel better . . . and it will be back in front of my name . . . |
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